I say you deserve as much chocolate as you like!
WOW you are amazing people to take on the challenges you have. You really are strong, inspiring people and I think any birth mother will see that and want their child to be placed with parents like you. I also think having an older brother is a bonus, they can look out for each other and it will help them both grow as individuals.
Your upbringing sounds really interesting, mine is not so exciting, I have one younger sister we are 5 years apart. She has a beautiful little daughter and my husband and I are both infertile. Funnily enough before we knew our situation I have always been interested in adoption and even as a toddler used to tell people I was going to adopt a real baby when I grow up.
I am very excited to be pursuing this avenue but the waiting is difficult. We aren't doing special needs adoption just standard infant adoption which means they are aged under 12 months old. I would really love a baby as young as possible.
Does your SW have to tell you of possible matches? Is she not able to just tell you when it's a done deal, or are things different in special needs because you might need to consider the extra needs involved?. I know with infant adoption we can choose to not know anything until its a done deal, which is what I will be doing. I could not handle the disappointment.
I feel very optimistic for you though, I think you have shown a lot of determination in going through the lengthy process of OS adoption and now to be going again locally you are obviously strong people of good character. I think you will get the call soon.