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    I say you deserve as much chocolate as you like!

    WOW you are amazing people to take on the challenges you have. You really are strong, inspiring people and I think any birth mother will see that and want their child to be placed with parents like you. I also think having an older brother is a bonus, they can look out for each other and it will help them both grow as individuals.

    Your upbringing sounds really interesting, mine is not so exciting, I have one younger sister we are 5 years apart. She has a beautiful little daughter and my husband and I are both infertile. Funnily enough before we knew our situation I have always been interested in adoption and even as a toddler used to tell people I was going to adopt a real baby when I grow up.
    I am very excited to be pursuing this avenue but the waiting is difficult. We aren't doing special needs adoption just standard infant adoption which means they are aged under 12 months old. I would really love a baby as young as possible.
    Does your SW have to tell you of possible matches? Is she not able to just tell you when it's a done deal, or are things different in special needs because you might need to consider the extra needs involved?. I know with infant adoption we can choose to not know anything until its a done deal, which is what I will be doing. I could not handle the disappointment.

    I feel very optimistic for you though, I think you have shown a lot of determination in going through the lengthy process of OS adoption and now to be going again locally you are obviously strong people of good character. I think you will get the call soon.

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    Hi all,

    Macks here with a little update from us.

    We were approved on 18th December (great day!). It did take us a little while to be placed with our social worker. I think we had to wait about 2 - 3 months. The whole process from meeting our social worker, interviews and home visits was all done in about 3 -4 months.

    So we are waiting for the call now... a tough wait. We are almost up to 4 months since board approval (not that I'm counting of course!)

    We are approved for permanent care and adoption of 2 siblings 7 years and under.

    We are on tenderhooks waiting for the call. Every month or so I have called the agency to see how things are going and to make sure we are still on the "radar".

    I was told by another lady in the same training that there are only 4 approved couples currently in our agency but not too sure how many there are on the database.
    We had 3 guest couples speak at our trianing and they were placed 5 months, 6 months and 7 months after board approval so I remain hopeful....

    Wishing everyone the best of luck with where they are at.


    Sophie - I'm sorry to hear of your plight. So sad to be told an almost yes with placement and then get a no. Our agency does not tell us when we are "shortlistd. Could you ask your agency not to tell you unless absolutely placed

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    Thanks for your encouragement .

    I think it takes strength for anyone doing this and
    all involved.

    Our file states that we are eligible for a CALD child,
    ( a DHS term used for children of a different racial
    Background) and special needs up to 18mths. Yes you are
    right about the special needs needing discussing. When we
    first started the education for this program and right up to
    our last interview we were planning on stating that we only
    wanted to be told if there was a match. But then our SW said
    that if we went with that option it could compromise her ability
    to match us. She said that often a birth mum's will have a specific
    questions and they (SW) are not always able to be answered without
    directly asking the prospective parents. She was very sure that the
    option to be called prior to allocation needed to be left open, and this was
    not just about special needs. I guess this is her oreferance and way
    of working, perhaps you will find your SW has a different
    approach. But in addition to that for us
    it will be more often than not that we will need to be asked
    about the special needs to discuss if we feel we were able to take
    the complexity on. but we really didn't get a feeling we had a choice about
    being called before hand.

    Do you have any indication as to when you will be allocated a
    social worker?

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    Macks, CONGRATS on being approved. We were approved
    at about the same time... Think it was the 7th Dec. We were
    not approved at our first board meeting ( was so stressful
    and deviatating at the time), our SW was sent back to
    Interview us further to answer some of the boards questions.
    I haven't heard of this before ( just our luck!!). But 6 weeks later
    we were scheduled at another board hearing and were approved
    in Dec.

    Fantastic that you are doing PC, there is such a need .
    Up to seven yrs is a great range, I am sure you will
    be snapped up very soon. Having an older child
    is very challenging but the rewards and love you feel
    make it a great journey together.

    We feel that we would like to do PC and perhaps
    an older child later on when our son is a lot older.




    PS. Sharna, our SW said there are apox 50 couples
    currently on the infant program and on average around 20
    allocations in Vic a year

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    Hi Sharna - did you get my private message? Im not sure it sent because it no longer appears in my sent items - I hope you got it.

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    Hi all, we have good news!!!
    We received a call this afternoon to tell us we have been matched with a nine week old baby girl. We are so excited.

    Tomorrow we have a meeting with our SW and DHS to get more details but it looks like this roller coaster begins this coming Monday. I have two days to wrap up work. My head is still spinning but we are rapt!

    Will keep you posted. Macks

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    Wow!!!

    Congratulations

    I remember when we received the news of our son.
    Words cannot describe it.

    Good luck. And tryvand get some sleep

    Sam

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    That is FANTASTIC news! Congratulations to you!!!!
    A beautiful little girl wow!
    Is it infant adoption or permanent care?
    I cant begin to imagine the mixture of feelings and emotions you are going through, what a busy week you have ahead of you. Please keep us posted and good luck for tomorrow!
    Last edited by gusandmeg; 26-04-2013 at 13:31.

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    Hi Ladies ,

    I just wanted to post our wonderful news.
    We received a call today at 4pm and have been
    allocated a 11mth old baby girl. She is on a
    permanent care order. We are so excited and
    overwhelmed at the same time. We go into DHS
    tomorrow to find everything out and make a
    transition plan. She will be home by the 16th May.

    Got to try and sleep now. Diesnt quite seem real yet.
    We will be telling our son tomorrow after we have more
    details and hopefully a photo. He is a bug brother now
    WOW!!

    Night
    Sam

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    Yay!!!! Congratulations Sam! I am so happy for your family. Keep us updated on your new little treasure and good luck with the upcoming week and handover.
    Sharna


 

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