Local Infant Adoption in Victoria | Bub Hub
+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 42 12311 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 413
  1. #1
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Bayswater North
    Posts
    10
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0

    Smile Local Infant Adoption in Victoria

    hey everyone
    Im a newbie here!
    My DH and I TTC for nearly 6 years and after 2 failed IVF rounds, last year we decided that it wasnt for us.
    We have now been pursuing the local infant adoption program in Victoria and on Monday will attend our first Training seminar. Needless to say, we are extremely excited and are very much looking forward to it...
    I would love to hear from anybody who has successfully adopted an infant in Victoria and any insights you can give to the process.
    Much love,
    Gosia

  2. #2
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Bayswater North
    Posts
    10
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0
    hi there!
    We contacted the Department of Human Services directly and they referred us to the Local Infant Adoption Program. We applied and went along to an information session. We were then invited to the training/education program - part 1 was today and part 2 of that is next Monday...
    Today was very informative and dealt with many emotional issues. We also got to hear an adoptive parents point of view which was inspiring.
    Looking forward to the next session next week...and then we prepare for long process of pre-approval...its going to be a long haul and we're ready!
    Wishing you luck and congrats on #1 on the way :-)))
    Gosia

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Posts
    94
    Thanks
    18
    Thanked
    33
    Reviews
    0
    Hi Gosia,

    I'm curious to see how you are progressing in your adoption process?

    We are about to start and would love to hear any hints, info you may have

    Cheers, Macks.
    x

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    24
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked
    3
    Reviews
    0
    Hello to you both,

    My hubby and I have have just completed our application for local adoption in

    VIC South East. Just wondering how you are both traveling and if you have

    been placed with an infant yet? We attended our info day in September and

    the 2 days training in October 2012 and are on the list

    waiting to be allocated a Social Worker.

    Would be great to be in touch with others who are adopting locally in Vic!

    Cheers
    Last edited by gusandmeg; 05-04-2013 at 10:32.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    31
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked
    7
    Reviews
    0
    Hi Sharn,

    We are in the local program in Vic. We live in the north.
    We were approved in Dec and our file went on the central database
    in Feb. We waited 11mths for our social worker. But there seemed
    to be a lot of upheaval in our North office and vacant positions
    not filled ... Etc, so the wait may have been longer here.

    Well we got a call 10 days ago about a baby girl who had a
    Mild medical condition and asked if we would consider her. Off we
    went to our GP to discus it and then after much consideration
    we said yes to putting our file forward. We then had to wait
    a week for the board meeting to decide on her allocation .
    What a rollercoaster, we were feeling really positive that it would
    be us , as was our social worker.... Because of our experience
    and her medical needs. Anyway , my husband had the afternoon
    off work in Monday ( last week) so we could receive the news together.
    We the board met and 3 hrs later we got the call to say we had not
    been chosen, a very hard call to take. We were feeling
    so sure it was our turn to have good news , and we had bonded
    with her over the weeks wait. I guess we will get better at this
    as time goes on, next time we will try not to take it so seriously and
    not bond with the idea.

    I remember hearing at the education that often a coupke of
    Families are put forward each time, but to live it !!!!
    .... For the first few nights after the call I really felt like
    Pulling out of the program, wasn't sure if I could handle the
    rejection again. But we are feeling slightly more ****itive this week,
    .... still recovering from the emotional rollercoaster last week ... But
    not as devastated.

    Back to waiting

    Sam

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    24
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked
    3
    Reviews
    0
    .

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    24
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked
    3
    Reviews
    0
    Oh Sam how devastating for you both. I can't imagine the excitement you must have felt with that initial phone call followed by a roller coaster of a week trying to prepare yourself for a baby and then to get the second phone call with that disappointing news : (

    I also think its really poor that it took 11 months for them to allocate you a social worker however I also think they found you a possible match very quickly, just 1 month after going on the data base. I know that doesn't help you because the match fell through but they obviously like you and your husband. I have everything crossed that you get the perfect match asap!

    Did they tell you how many couples are on the data base?

    Have you also got a background in ivf/infertility? any other children? Sorry lots of questions but its nice to meet someone going through the same thing.

    Take Care and hang in there the call will come!!

    Sharna

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    186
    Thanks
    34
    Thanked
    31
    Reviews
    0
    Hi guys,
    Birth mother here,

    it seems adoption has got even more difficult

    As a birth parent I was given three files of families to choose out off. Its generally the birth parent that chooses.

    Feel free to PM if you have an questains I may be able to help with from my side

    Good luck to you all xoxoxo

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to sophie11 For This Useful Post:

    gusandmeg  (03-04-2013)

  10. #9
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    31
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked
    7
    Reviews
    0
    Hi Sharn and Sophie,

    This is so complex and difficult on all sides.

    Sophie, thank you so much for telling us your
    experience, and wishing us well. It is fantastic that
    you are here sharing.

    In our case there were 3 families put forward,
    however no birth mum involved. The board made
    the decision alone. The child was over
    1 years old and had been in foster care for some time.
    It is the special needs infant program we are on. This
    means usually the child us over one. We are approved for
    up to an 18 mth yr old.

    Sophie, how did you manage to make such a decision
    regarding family. I thinking if it were me I would be very
    moved by the photos and imagine I would just have a feeling
    about one couple or another. Hope that is ok to say,
    I just can't imagine it any other way.

    Sharn, we have a son, he is 5.5 yrs old. He is adopted
    from overseas and has been with us 3 yrs. He has some
    special needs based from the trauma he experienced in the
    first 2.5 yrs of his life. We are at a very Functioning level
    now but it has been a long road. This has gone for us in some
    part of this assessment as we have experience, and on the
    other hand it has gone against us as some on the board felt
    we may not have the capacity ( with what we deal with daily now) to settle
    in another child. We feel ready and our SW feels we are, but I
    think our file will be a tough one to match with all things being
    considered. This referal gave us hope but also made us realize that
    not everyone sees our file the same way our SW does ( ie as a positive).

    We have been in the system 8 yrs now. 6 yrs processing and waiting for our son, and 2 years now since we started this process.
    We are keen on an older child and special needs as I have grown
    up with this, all my brothers and sisters are adopted and fostered.
    We are all now in our 30's and 40's. I grew up with a lot of
    diversity.

    But I must say I am now finding this process a lot harder than
    the OS program, in the sense in that program you only know when
    a match is made not when you are being put forward, that is proving
    very emotional, and I am usually pretty resilient.

    Just ate my sons Easter bunny while he's asleep... Sooo bad,
    chocolate is my vice to get through such things. Must now replace it
    before he notices..... Naughty mum!!!!

  11. #10
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    31
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked
    7
    Reviews
    0
    PS. just realised I spelt your name wrong Sharna. Apologies


 

Similar Threads

  1. Adoption Qld
    By heartstringz in forum Adoption / Surrogacy
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 28-09-2013, 17:45
  2. questions about Adoption within Australia, we live in Victoria
    By XandyandZak in forum Adoption / Surrogacy
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 23-09-2012, 16:53
  3. Is anyone considering adoption?
    By InvisibleWoman in forum IVF
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 23-08-2012, 03:01

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Free weekly newsletters | Sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Heinz Baby Basics
Our BPA Free range offers you a choice for every stage of your baby’s feeding development. You’ll love our brilliant colours, inspired designs and innovative features. Heinz Baby Basics caters for your baby’s needs!
gotcha
X

Expecting your first baby?

Not sure what to do?

We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the
14 Pregnancy Must Dos!