For those who HAVE circ'd do you think u have maimed and abused your child?

**ShelbysMumma** · 08-05-2010 16:31

only answer if you are not going to be mean and judgmental, REMEMBER this is the PRO CIRCUMCISION THREAD

I have had my son circumcised when he was 2 1/2 weeks old and hes now 8 months

while reading on here and stupidly posting in "discuss it"
i have found that all the anti circers seem to think i have maimed, abused,degraded,hurt,harmed "inert judgmental words here" ets etc

if you have had your sons circumcised do you agree with their statements?

I strongly disagree and i think they are just mean!

**Lolanthe** · 08-05-2010 16:49

Yes, I really do.Its one of my only regrets in life. There was nothing wrong with my babies and I allowed a doctor to circumcise them. I feel embarassed when people bring up the health pros because I don't agree with them. These are my own opinions so please dont dispute it. We only circumcised so that my two boys would look like like their father, but hes left us and isnt on the scene anymore. I am dreading the day i have to explain to my boys that i allowed someone to circumcise them, and i'm scared that day is closer than i think because my oldest son has already started questioning it because his best mate is not cut. I dont think anti circers are being mean, i think they are being honest, and if your son ever says he didnt want it done you might see where they are coming from. I know i do, i feel rotten for circumcising my angels.

**BigRedV** · 08-05-2010 16:51

Originally Posted by Lolanthe

Yes, I really do.Its one of my only regrets in life. There was nothing wrong with my babies and I allowed a doctor to circumcise them. I feel embarassed when people bring up the health pros because I don't agree with them. These are my own opinions so please dont dispute it. We only circumcised so that my two boys would look like like their father, but hes left us and isnt on the scene anymore. I am dreading the day i have to explain to my boys that i allowed someone to circumcise them, and i'm scared that day is closer than i think because my oldest son has already started questioning it because his best mate is not cut. I dont think anti circers are being mean, i think they are being honest, and if your son ever says he didnt want it done you might see where they are coming from. I know i do, i feel rotten for circumcising my angels.

**Father** · 08-05-2010 16:55

Originally Posted by ShelbysMumma

if you have had your sons circumcised do you agree with their statements?

I strongly disagree and i think they are just mean!

Absolutely not. Just the standard anti-circ "scare and abuse" tactics. It's really all they can rely on.

**Blonde Assassin** · 08-05-2010 17:04

Nope! I don't agree with any of their "scare" statements!

DF & I are 100% happy with the decision we made for OUR CHILD

**AnnaT** · 08-05-2010 18:05

Statements like that make me laugh. If you look at a playground full of boys; could you pick the circ'ed from the uncirc'ed? Uh no. Same as you wouldnt be able to pick breastfed from formula fed. My boys are no different to my friends sons who arent circumcised. They are also not disadvantaged in anyway, their penis' work just fine. I dont believe their sex life will be hindered either because they wont even know what it is like to have sex with a foreskin. Cant miss what you dont have. Im sure there are alot of circ'ed men who would have a good giggle at people thinking they have less than good sex lives.
The only concern I have is some person filling their heads with nonsense about child abuse and making them think they dont work like "normal" men or some other rubbish. Its ludicrous.

ETA - obviously there is the risk of it going wrong. Unfortunately that happens in all surgical procedures. I also believe there are Drs out there who should not be doing it because they are not properly qualified; I made sure I did my research, I understood the minimal risks and I also met with the Dr before I agreed to anything being done. I even watched my Ds2 be circumcised because I believe in walking the walk. It was a bit gut wrenching when he cried but I assure you it isnt as traumatic as everyone makes it out to be. It was over and done with very quickly. Anaesthetic was used (he was more distressed about being held down) . He was fine 5min later. He wont remember it either.
I find it entertaining when people ask me why *I* chose to have them circumcised; my husband is actually intact, I also left the final say up to him. He did his research; and based on his own experience of not being circumcised decided we should do it. And so we did. I dont regret it. I think there are untold amounts of other worthwile causes people could get on their highhorse about.

**Lil M** · 08-05-2010 18:22

We chose not to circ our DS but for those that do I wouldn't consider for one moment that you have maimed or abused him, it has health benefits & that's why people choose to do it, they are not doing it to be mean!! That's why I don't understand the "human rights" argument parents do it to benefit their child not to torture them!

**Tam-I-Am** · 08-05-2010 18:36

I would really HOPE they didn't feel like that...even if they did feel now that they hadn't perhaps acted in their child's best interests. Guilt is so useless in those sort of situations - and when I talk from an anti-RIC perspective, it's NEVER to make the people who have RICed their bubs feel awful about it.

**ShelbysMumma** · 08-05-2010 20:22

tam-i-am - i know you say you hope that is not how they feel but the things they were saying made me feel horrible and like my son should be taken away from me because im a monster, i got very depressed over the comments and i didnt come on bubhub for a few months

i know you probably were'nt being sympathetic towards me though, i do think they want me to feel horrible, i dont regret it though.

**Pulp Fiction** · 08-05-2010 20:47

Originally Posted by ShelbysMumma

tam-i-am - i know you say you hope that is not how they feel but the things they were saying made me feel horrible and like my son should be taken away from me because im a monster, i got very depressed over the comments and i didnt come on bubhub for a few months

i know you probably were'nt being sympathetic towards me though, i do think they want me to feel horrible, i dont regret it though.

Yeah, I imagine you probably have to be pretty thick skinned to post in the 'discuss it' threads if you're a circer.

I wouldn't post in there if the comments bother you. You made the decision to circ, you are happy with it. You don't need to justify it to anyone.

I don't post in there either, simply because I don't see the point. I know both sides of the debate and how passionately people feel either way. I don't see the point in going in there and arguing back and forth about it.

Actually, I did post in there once, when I thought DS had sand trapped under his foreskin and I wanted advise from impartial people as to what I should do. (I really didn't know where else to post it.)

But I don't go in there for discussion/debating purposes. Maybe you shouldn't either if people in there are getting you down.