I just thought I'd mention too, that in terms of sperm count, we've had fabulous success with something our FS suggested. It was as simple as a handful of Gojii berries and a handful of pumpkin seeds each day.
DP wasn't convinced, but humoured me for a month. In that time we saw his sperm count jump from 3 million to around 7 million which we hadn't seen happen in the six months previous to adding these into his diet.
He still wasn't convinced, so stopped taking them for two months (we weren't cycling then either) and his next count was 2 million!
Then he was convinced, so took them for a period of almost 3 months - gave up alcohol for the last month before cycling and his count was up to 12 million!
Pretty impressive. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to change his chromosomal issues and the count still wouldn't be high enough to fall pregnant naturally - but still... amazing what those little berries and seeds can do.
DP and I have started our chats about donor sperm. As predicted, they are very sad conversations. Not sure we have a definative answer yet, but we are getting there.
It would be so much easier if they could tell us definatively whether we could get pregnant using DP's sperm. There's a 'chance' we can - but how much time, money and emotional energy have we got? Such a hard decision...