recurrent miscarriage, pregnant again

[Susan Mac]

So, I have a history or recurrent miscarriage (as you can see in my signature) because of unbalanced translocations, and now I'm 12 weeks pregnant again.

I fluctuate between confident and excited, and incredibly nervous about whether this baby will be okay. This morning I woke up not wanting to get up because I was so worried about this baby, but then later in the day I was feeling good again.

I've seen a good strong heartbeat, but unfortunately I've seen a heartbeat on two previous pregnancies that miscarried.

I'm trying to be confident in the fact that I feel SO pregnant. But now that I've reached 12 weeks, all those first trimester symptoms are starting to fade off a bit, but my belly hasn't popped out yet and obviously I can't feel the baby move yet.

Has anyone been in this place before? How have you got through this stage, or even through your whole pregnancy? (I remember even when I was pregnant with my son I had only had one miscarriage but was still nervous about the whole pregnancy.)

[Jender]

I haven't been in your situation but wanted to send sticky vibes your way.......

[kuddles]

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I find that after one miscarriage it is hard not to be scared about recurring miscarriages. It was always on my mind.
My friend had 3 miscarriages and with her 4th pregnancy she bought a monitor so she could check the heart beat if she felt panicked. It worked well for her.
I just tried to see my midwife early in the pregnancy and quite frequently.
All the best.

[N&L Mum]

Sending loads of sticky dust your way..

Unfortunately i have been in your position a few too many times. It is so stressful especially in those first 12weeks. I lost my first baby at 10wks they classed it as a missed miscarriage the baby had died at 7wks but i had no signs just a bad feeling that i couldn't shake off. My 2nd pregnancy i had an eptopic at 7wks and a tube removed. I was told IVF was my best option. I was lucky enough to fall pregnant on my first attempt. I was so paranoid the same thing would happen. I had a scan at 6wks with my clinic and ended up having another 4 scans before my 12wk scan because i was so paranoid. It didn't stop there i hired a doppler at 14wks which i used daily up until i felt movement at 17wks. once i felt movement it put me a little at ease but then i worried i wasn't getting enough movment. Every day after work i would either drink coke or put an ice pack on my belly to get bubs moving. I did this right up until the day i had my first bubs.

We started TTC naturally at the end of the same year as bubs was born, i fell pregnant and MC at 10wks i went back to IVF fell pregnant only to MC at 7wks. On my 2nd attempt and trying something different i fell pregnant i had 4 scans before my 12wks scan because i was so worried. After my 12wk scan i stressed but it wasn't as stressful as the last time. i still drank coke and put ice packs on my belly to get bubs moving. I managed to enjoy some of my pregnancy.

[Susan Mac]

Noah and Layla's Mum, you sound just like me when I was pregnant with my son. I was forever poking my belly to make sure he was still moving!

I'm just at the point now where I can't yet feel the baby move, so I don't have as much to hang on to.

[N&L Mum]

Have you thought about hiring a doppler?

[kimbo85]

hey girls,
Just thought id poke my nose in... ive had 3 m/c since 2008 and an ectopic (tube removed in july 09).. gave up trying after that and am 24wk now... i have not stopped stressing the whole time!!! i keep reading too much of the scary stuff.. its not good for my bubba... so everynight, regardless of whether i get lots of movement or not.. just before bedtime, i get my doppler out and listen to bubs heartbeat... my doppler was $140 off ebay, has the digital reading on it, and was usable at 16 weeks... its the only thing that eases my mind!!!

[SomewhereOverTheRainbow]

Hi Susan!
I remember you from these threads and also as being a wonderful support when I lost my own little boy at 19wks in 2008.
CONGRATS on the pregnancy, I completely understand how scary this must be for you. I only have a history of the one loss but still the worst period for me was around that 16-19 week mark when he died, until we had the morph scan and knew that everything looked ok. We didn't tell anyone outside the family until we had the morph scan...and it was a very fretful time. In the back of my mind though I knew out chromosomal tests that we had done when we lost Ethan had come back OK so that there was no real 'reason' for me to be so worried...I can't imagine how much harder it must be for you with the transolcation.

How would you feel about having an amnio to check on bub? I am normally rather against amnios, but in this situation it might make you feel more confident and ease some doubts?


I'm really crossing my fingers for you that this one is a super sticky bub