I need someone to tell me I'm an idiot!

[waterlily]

I became friends with a girl when we were both pregnant. I had my DD 2 months before her so we didn't see each other till her bub was born. We now try to have play dates once a week.
Anywho my DD started crawling at 5 months, sitting at 5.5 pulling up at 6. Now my friend keeps trying to tell me at 3 months her DD was saying "dad, sleep, hello, play" ect I see her nearly every week for a full 6 hour day and nada. Then when her bub was 5 months I put her on he tummy to play with my DD and she couldn't even lift up her head and was not yet rolling (Mum even said so)but 3 days later she is apparently crawling.
THEN her DF comes over one day and makes a rude comment about sitting my DD infront of the tv all day (my friend told him I do this) which is rubish!! The tv is rarely on and when it is DD is not interested unless it's yo gabba gabba.
I'm so cranky I have cancelled 1 playdate. I know I'm being petty and I don't have any friends so I should just grow up, but I KNOW she is lying and I wish she wouldn't because her DD is a beautiful and a special child even if she isn't at my DDs level yet. She is 2 months younger. I wish it didn't bug me because I don't want to lose her as a friend.

[TurnedBatty]

Your an idiot Feel better? Id be peeved too. I have a friend i avoid seeing when she starts getting too competitive.

[waterlily]

Haha suprisingly no. I just wish she didn't feel the need to compete!! It's really puting a strain on our friendship. But i don't know anyone else with babies.

[codswallop]

your a idiot!
now to go read your post to find out why!

[mummyvioletta]

i have a so called friend like that. i have been ignoring her for a few months now.at the moment i dont have the patience for outright lying or the tact to not say anything.

[Guest1234]

Sounds like a competitive mum. There are lots of them around. I have no idea what to do about it because the one time I have dealt with one, I stopped all contact.

She was competitive about who would go into labour first (I was due 2 weeks after her) and when I went into labour first and had DD she went and requested she get induced coz she was in 'sooo much pain' and had her DD 3 days after I had my DD.
Then at about 3mths old apparently her DD was pulling herself up onto furniture and 'would run if she could'. Even now I see her on forums telling people how her DD can count to 50 and sing her ABC's and extraordinary things like that. I just roll my eyes and think "Yeah right!"

Maybe you could talk to her about it? I don't know how you could approach her to start the conversation, but if you would like to keep the friendship it's probably best you get the competitiveness to stop.

[Me]

Your bub is still young, you will learn to let it roll off your back soon.

A lot of parents want to feel like their child is "the best" at everything. If I were you I'd just please her with "oh wow that's great!" then move on in the conversation and forget about it. She's not doing anyone any favours by gloating all the time, but she obviously needs the ego boost

[codswallop]

its hard but a lot of first time mums are hyper competitive with there kids and it last right up untill your old laddies playing bingo and she is telling you how much better her grand kids are to yours
my advice is try to get out to a playgroup, the more of you she has to compare bubs to hopefully she will relax and learn that all babies are different and special (and youll have other mums to talk to and share her about with)

[mum2bubba]

Well, my son could cook a roast dinner at just 2 months old and get leaves out of the gutters. Top that. :wink:

Seriously, I don't understand why parenting or why milestones has to be a bl00dy competion

[MsMummy]

Do you actually want to be friends with her, or is it just because you're short of friends (as you said)?

If the latter, I wouldn't bother.

It's all quite petty stuff, so you either ditch her, or if you like really like her, then just ignore the weird stuff.

I mean, we're all a bit weird anyway.