I've been listening to a lot of parenting ideas at playgroup lately... a lot of Mums are pregant with their second child and are going through toddler stages with their first.
Having 4 children already and having children who are the eldest in our grou.. I think I have a little bit of knowledge when it comes to different ideas and worries about those so-called.. 'bad habit forming' parenting ideas...
This was the main one for me...
Please.. it WILL NOT cause bad habits if you lay with/sit with/rock/pat/feed your child to sleep.
It is not worth fighting with a 2-3yr old for 2-3 hours a night, bringing them back to bed, taking them back to bed, taking them back to bed, taking them back to bed...... everytime they come out... just because you think it will cause bad habits if they don't 'learn to settle themselves'
ALL children learn to settle themselves. I would say by about 4-5 years of age, every child can be reasoned with to accept a cuddle, a book, a kiss, a tuck in... and the reassurance that you are sitting in the loungeroom reading a book, and will check on them in 5 mins.
Babies and toddlers go through many sleep phases, just because they self settle now... does not mean they will self-settle in 6 months... and then what?????
BUT if your child knows you will stay with them, until they go to sleep... they will ALWAYS go to sleep with you with them... there will be no fight. There is no need to fight, because it is a pleasant experience... the soft songs, the prayers, the cuddles, the stories.
By the time your child is a preschooler you can reason with them and work out a good bedtime routine with them, that works for you and them.
Please feel free to add to the list.