how did you want it to be???

[tyler's mum]

i was wondering how you thought it would be or how you wish it would be

i dont think anyone ever plans to be a single mum/dad, however i alway had a feeling i would be a single mum [not that i wanted it that way] i dont do well with men, as soon as things start to go good i break it off, i always have people telling me i will find mr right as much as i hate being alone and i know im still young i think im fine with being a single mum, is that normal do you think???

i have never really been a happy person, the only time i find myself smiling if when im with tyler, i do really want to share my life with someone but i think at the end of the day i just say im find with being single and a single mum because its easier then to think what im missing out on

[mummyT]

I just had to reply to you and say I feel a bit the same. I still class myself as a single mum, even though DS's Dad and I have starting seeing each other again (been broken up for 2.5yrs). Im ok with being single, and sometimes enjoy it more. I had moments of real upset & disappointment & intense regret about it, mainly when seeing families, but then when it's just Zac and I cuddled up in bed I sometimes wish I didnt have to share him! And sometimes I really don't want to have to take anyone else into consideration! I want a family, but I dont sit well with the complications of relationships, the compromise & sometimes the sacrafices that come along with it. Selfish I know , but I feel I can be honest with myself about not feeling desperately lonely when I'm by myself. I would love the "fairytale", I really would, but not unless it really is the real deal, not just for the sake of it. I see being a parent as a beautiful thing & sometimes it really is all I need to make me happy. Everything else is a bonus

[Mum2Bug]

To be honest I never expected to be a single sahm. I always thought I would be married or atleast living with a partner before having kids. This was not to be unfortunately but I have to admit I love my life now. I'm the one who makes all the decisions and raises my daughter and I like it like that. I've never really been very good in relationships either, although i admit to missing having someone to cuddle up to. But the two relationships i've had since having Bug have made me realise that this is the life I want for us for now! Im happy with it and I just take and enjoy each day as it comes.

[LilShenanigans]

Would it sound weird if I said I knew I was going to be a single mother?

Um, how do I explain lol
The only word that springs to mind is, I just knew. I wouldn't say I'm some sort of psychic, but I am ... "tuned in" as they say.
Now you all think I'm some sort of freak lol

I know I'm not going to be single forever, but I can't imagine incorporating someone else's life into ours. It just seems all too perfect right now, DD gets all the attention, and the looks she gives me is unbelievable.
I think I'd be heart broken if she wanted someone elses attention or cuddles.

[tyler's mum]

i feel better knowing im not the only one that feels this way,, people such as my mates/family can not understand why i have just come to terms with wanting to stay single, i just say its better then to let someone in only to be hurt again and now i have tyler to think about i dont want im scared that if or when i ever met a guy then we break up i dont wnt tyler to get hurt

[Mum2Bug]

I can understand that. ive had two relationships since Bug was born and after the first one ended very badly, she developed separation anxiety. She seemed to think that anyone who walked out the main door was never coming back to see her. And she was only 8 months at the time. The second one wasnt going for long enough for it to affect her. But now, after seeing what it does to her, Im quite happy to stay single too!

[tyler's mum]

how long did you wait befor she met the guys?? i think i would be to scared for her to met them