Hi everyone.... First let me say this is going to be a looong one... I'm having a big issue with my (ex?) partner and I have been struggling on pretending it doesn't exist for so long now.... So this is 90% a vent, and 10% a request for advise lol!
So some background... I have been together with my partner (not FOB) for almost 3 years now. Things have been tough most of that time and the issues we have he always seems to be able to tell me just how it was my problem. We had a small breakup in June 09 where we argued and he walked out, but I begged him back and he came. Since then it's been really hard... He has been terribly degrading to me and my family (saying things which are either not true or are extremely upsetting) and it seems deliberately picking fights. He has told me that DD is not his therefore despite the fact that she calls him dad and is the only dad she knows (her bilogical has not has contact since she was 1 and my partner and I have been together since she was 6 months) he hs told me he feels he has no responsibility for her and I should therefore take full responsibility for looking after her ( I'm nt allowed to ask him to pick her up from care or bath or feed her anymore etc).
We have been on holiday without him for the last week (he couldn't get leave when we expected he could and couldn't cancel the holiday) and he is obviously missing us as we are him. However his way of dealing with it gas been to criticise me, pick fights and nw tell me that unless I come home now he won't be here when we get back! I have pandered slightly and "begged" that he doesn't leave but I was wondering what your advise would be?
There... So much better... Thanks for reading