NEED HELP! She Always Wants to be Carried

[MummaLove]

Not sure where this should go so sorry to the Mods if you have to move it.

I have just come back from a trip to the park (it's at our back fence so not far). I take my DD1 who is 2 in a week, every day and we feed the ducks and play on the swings. I also have a DD2 who's 6 months old.

Today my husband took the car which I had left the pram in - silly me. So I put DD2 in a sling and off we went to the park. Half way around the path at exactly the same spot as always, my DD1 cracks it and won't walk because she wants to be carried. It's getting ridiculous. When I have the pram, I encourage her to "catch" Mummy and we play chasey but she always ends up wanting to be carried and I always do.

So - today I couldn't carry her because of DD2 in the sling. The walkway around the park is not far and she' perfectly capable of doing it. So what did she do? Screamed her head off for at least 10 mins and stayed in the one spot, wouldn't move. She did lay down flat and have a good scream. Threw her hat off and then took her shoes off too. I tried to keep walking on but she just won't budge and I couldn't pick her up. I tried getting her to hold my hand, chase after the dog, "quick, come and see these birds!" nothing worked.

She is well aware that when I'm carrying her sister, I can't carry her so she does understand. Eg. when I'm changing the babys nappy and she's helping, when I pick DD2 up to bring her out into the lounge DD1 sometimes says "Mumma can't carry you" and I say "Yes, honey not right now but we will cuddle in a minute". I felt so bad because physically I just couldn't do it this time and my husband doesn't help because he just gives her whatever she wants, whenever she wants it!!

How do I get her to be more independent and walk a little more (if we were at the shopping centre and she was on the loose she doesn't want to be carried that's for sure!)

In the end I had to man handle her over to the bridge so she could stand on the end (the railings start right low on the ground) then I could pick her up properly and I had to carry her, I had no choice as DD2 needed a feed and I had to get her home.

ANY ADVICE??!!!

[made2bAmummy]

Sounds hard! She is one determined little girl to go for 10 min protesting in the park.
Just keep doing what you are doing - she will learn that Mummy's rules are slightly different to Daddie's, kids are incredible that way, just stick to your guns with the "Mummy can't carry you now" and after a few times with the 10 minute tantrum in the park she will get over it and keep going. Just don't give in or she will know that tantruming will get her what she wants.

[MummaLove]

Yes, she truly is the little girl "who had a little curl" as she does have one right over her forehead!

She's 99% angel but when she lets go, the whole world knows about it!

If I didnt' have the baby to get home and feed, I would have tried to coax her out of it as I'd have more time but I had no choice. And it was so hot too I didn't want her getting overworked and out in the sun.

I guess I just needed some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing. So thanks!