some people just amaze me.....

**pisces00** · 12-01-2010 07:06

As a straight woman who is an egg donor i did not want any more children so i encouraged my new husband who doesnt have any previous children to donate sperm. These are some of the things that we have come across that amazes me when it comes to others recieving donor sperm....

* women/couples who do not feel the need for a complete blood test from my hubby ruling out AIDS, HEP C & B etc.

* women who do not know if they are ovulating or rather know their body clock - some want sperm donation 5 days in a row and not even are sure if they are due to ovulate.

* having to remind couples to supply speciman cups and /or syringes ( for those that want sperm already in syringe).

* couples not giving us the 3-4 days notice prior to donating to make sure that as a couple we have not engaged in any sexual stuff ourselves. This ensures the couple get the optimum amount of sperm on the day.\

As a hetro couple we are doing something nice for couples who are getting something for nothing and we bend over backwards and yet still these issues arise with some couples. But in saying this, so far the couples that have gone on to have children have turned out the greatest mothers i have ever met.

I just get so frustrated sometimes as we even put off our anniversary dinner in order to donate.

**alphafemale2901** · 12-01-2010 07:14

Good on your DH for donating.

It does seem a bit sloppy of some people not wanting to be a bit more cautious or prepared. Its hard for me to comment more than that since I've never been in that situation.

**Leeee** · 12-01-2010 16:33

we just for want of a better word rejected a potential sperm donor because he wasn't sure of his blood type and 'didn't know if he could have a std test by then'

and get this he's donated before and has agreed to help another couple now. we won't use anyone's sperm without a clean test and a compatible blood type. i almost asked you if your husband would help us but we're in brisbane lol i guess i just wanted to say i know what you mean and you're both doing a wonderful thing

**pisces00** · 13-01-2010 08:03

you have no idea what a relief these replies are to my post.

We honestly have been thinking " are we just being picky or pedantic?"

As a donor i have seen all of my recipients go to the ends of the earth to do everything they could to make sure that they gave thier bodies the best chance possible of haveing our cycle a success.

This post does not apply to all the women he has donated to of course and not all of them were gay ( though most are). Its just that it is no fun for him to jerk off into a cup with a magazine at the best of times ( sorry if it is TMI) and we are saving them IVF $$ by either him going to a hotel room to donate or if nearby they co ordiate a time and they wait in the driveway for me to bring out the speciman and then go and use it.

thank you all for putting my mind at ease. I cant imagine having to rely on someone else to become a parent but i just had to vent i suppose.

**katiana** · 15-01-2010 16:41

i just wanted to say u and ure dh are awesome, if it wasnt for selfless people like ureself, many couple out there (gay or straight) wouldnt get the plessure of being parents.

afm: we used u/s sperm due to A: we didnt know who to ask for sperm without any legal complications. and B: it is thoroughly tested.

**mumkc** · 15-01-2010 19:39

How irresponsible! Why would you risk a potential child's life before it is even born?

Can I ask, how does sperm donation work? Is it regulated, and therefore do you sign a contract? Aren't the terms of donation specified? Otherwise, I would be concerned about claims your DP's "children" could make in the future.

Anyway, I would be very specific about the terms up-front and would not donate unless they were adhered to.

**waiting2bmum** · 23-01-2010 16:04

I find it shocking that people are not being more cautious...gay or straight.
My partner and I are currently undergoing ttc and we're using a known donor. We have made him have a lot of testing and also sign a donor agreement. We have been very cauious to ensure that we give our baby the best possibly start in life!
Thank you to you and your DH for helping others, you provid people with such a gift

**katiana** · 07-06-2010 13:59

^^ just want to say thanku for ure "contribution" , lol , donors are special people in this world who bring a very special gift to peoples lives.

**Boobycino** · 28-06-2010 19:13

I think that your amazing people giving life and love to others what an amazing gift. And weird that people aren't more careful or thoughtful or prepared!

**MegzShan12** · 10-09-2010 17:01

hey,

i think what your doing is truly amazing but im shore you know that already i wish there more people out there like you an your husband.

your giveing the gift of life an family to peolpe there is no bigger gift (i just wont to cry)