Didn't get a "pigeon pair"

[Ruby_Slippers]

Hi, Im not really sure I would call it a major "dissapointment" but probably if im honest there is a little bit of it there.

Im 38 and this was my last pregnancy. I already have a DD and was hoping for a DS pigeon pair. Everyone said "oh you are having a boy" all the time (especial MIL ).

Also my sister who has a DD 5 months older than mine is expecting in April and is having a Boy. When she told me this I thought ... Oh I bet I have a girl now.

Even the midwife said "it's a boy oh hangon no its a girl", so I think all those factors are combining to have a bit of an impact.

Anyone with two girls, wish they had a boy???

ps dont' get me wrong I love my little girl, and as they are close in age hoping they grow up to be the best of friends ... im just torturing myself of what might have been

[Hannahsmumma]

I hear you loud and clear.

I really wanted one of each and that would have been it - only want 2 children.

Now I have 2 girls and I hope for the same as you that they are great friends and I do everything I cvan even now to try and get the bond between them really strong, just by talking to the oldest mainly about how wonderful she is with her baby sister and how her sister looks up to her etc etc

Anyway, DH and I are now talking about No. 3 but purely on the chance that we may get a boy!! BUT when I think of having 3 girls it really puts me off. I honestly don't want 3 girls!!

I think we may go for it anyway. The other thing was the girls are enrolled in a private school and so when I think of 3 anything I think of that so much more expense. 3 at a private school, 3 of everything!! Whether it is 2 girls and 1 boy or 3 girls.

I just wish that I had 1 boy 1 girl and my 'problems' (I know it is not a real problem) wouldn't exist.

[Bryden]

Hey Ruby_Slippers,

I'm not in the exact same situation as you but I thought i'd reply anyway.

I'm 22 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and it will be our final child. To be honest this baby was a 'surprise', we were happy with our 2 boys.

We found out that this bub is a boy too. I didn't think it bothered me and don't get me wrong I'll love him unconditionally but I have found myself becoming increasingly sad that I'll never have a daughter. The stupid thing is before i got pregnant this time it never bothered me. I was just glad to have 2 of the same sex. I hoped they will be as close as I am with my sister.

I know there's nothing I can do about it, I know in the long run it won't matter at all. I am truly blessed to have healthy, beautiful children but it still hurts and I can't change that either.

Reece

[Countrydeb]

Don't get me started on this subject.....Totally know how you feel and can understand it......seems so simple for others to have a blended family ,i wonder how can it seem so easy for me to have bluddy boys,[love em to bits] just really really really wanted a pink one......i am 43 in Feb so no more for me i think and with no guarantees,too risky me thinks,certainly do not want 5 boys .........i wonder if i'll ever come to terms with it feel ripped off and very sad at times............just gotta give you a .....

[AM]

Yeah, 3 boys here... I'd LOVE a girl, but probably never to be...

Take care, it stings at times, but most of the time you are counting your blessings!!

[RHJ]

I love this forum. I am so glad that there is finally a place where we can come and truly talk about gender disappointment!
Ruby_Slippers I am another with 3 boys, but i am sure the feelings are the same no matter which gender you were wishing for! Big hugs to you.

[zenifa]

When I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I did long for a son, and will admit there was some disappointment at the u/s scan when I first heard I was having a girl. I had convinced myself I was having a boy, the pregnancy was different, in my dreams bubs was a boy and DH and I both wanted one, as did both sets of grandparents etc
Plus I had mil and my DD1 in the room during the end of the scan and remember the mixed feelings, the joy of seeing this healthy baby and the disappointment that she didn't wasn't a he.
However, I very quickly overcame this (mainly through self reflection, meditating etc) and just embraced that I was having a girl, and luckily by the time she arrived, I had no regrets and love having two girls. By the way, we aren't having any more kids, so there was no 'oh we can try again next time'

A friend of mine yesterday gave birth to her 2nd child, another girl and her DH was very set on having a boy, so DH rang to congratulate them and spoke to her hubby about it, and I think in time they will have no regrets about 2 girls.

RS to you!!