C- section talk.

[Theophania]

I was told by a midwife after my c/s with DS that i would never be able to have a natural birth now that ive had a c/s .



They sound excellect, are they pricey?

I have a Doula this time I *heart* her, she is such a lovely lady, From the first time I met her and she gave me a big cuddle I have felt comfortable with her. She is a fairly well known Brissy Doula and already I would suggest her to friends family members etc, she is so nice. The way my Doula charges is once you get the baby bonus you pay her out of that and the total cost is $1500, I think you can find cheaper ones but I would pay her double, I think even if I don't get my VB it will make it easier having her there knowing I did all I could this time before the cesarean, also with BF and a debrief after the birth I think this will help me as well as I got PND after my first. Sorry I am starting to babble lol also she sends me books and info on VBAC's and diet at the moment and I speak to her on the phone also and even if my questions are dumb it doesn't seem to bother her.

[Kayangel]

I have a Doula this time I *heart* her, she is such a lovely lady, From the first time I met her and she gave me a big cuddle I have felt comfortable with her. She is a fairly well known Brissy Doula and already I would suggest her to friends family members etc, she is so nice. The way my Doula charges is once you get the baby bonus you pay her out of that and the total cost is $1500, I think you can find cheaper ones but I would pay her double, I think even if I don't get my VB it will make it easier having her there knowing I did all I could this time before the cesarean, also with BF and a debrief after the birth I think this will help me as well as I got PND after my first. Sorry I am starting to babble lol also she sends me books and info on VBAC's and diet at the moment and I speak to her on the phone also and even if my questions are dumb it doesn't seem to bother her.

Babble all u like i find it really interesting. I will be looking forward to hearing ur birth story, make sure u post one ?

$1500 sounds like a fair price for wat she is offering, how long after the birth will she help for?

[Theophania]

Babble all u like i find it really interesting. I will be looking forward to hearing ur birth story, make sure u post one ?

$1500 sounds like a fair price for wat she is offering, how long after the birth will she help for?

I really hope it will be a VB story lol, but I know at some point I need to start accepting that I can't control everything (it's hard work being a control freak lol).

I think she comes and see's me regularly after the birth for a few weeks, but in speaking to her I feel she is ok with me calling her for as long as I need, I suppose as long as I'm not still calling when bubs it 12 months or something lol...

It's funny though I am totally 'birth' crazy, my mum is sick of hearing all the stats etc lol, I rant constantly about it and the hate/fear/distrust I have developed for OBs, I felt really bad going to my friends for dinner the other night and ended up about it for almost an hour I suppose its just because its whats going on with me at the moment... I am definitely thinking about becoming a Doula myself though, I think it would be such an amazing job, being allowed into women's lives for this beautiful event and sharing the love with them... Ok sorry I am a little baby crazy

[SassyMummy]

Was ur DD breech?

Nope.

She was just overdue... in hindsight however, that was just going by dates, which I may have been confused with, and at a scan she was dated to have been 2 weeks younger than my dates suggested... meaning that when I had my c-sec she may have actually been JUST due, not 2 weeks over.

There was no real reason for my caesarean other than the fact that she was overdue and I think they just wanted me out of hte way. I wasn't well researched enough, or confident enough, to say no. Of course I kicked myself for years afterwards because of that.

[TripleTime]

If i ever have a natural birth, it will be to soon!!

That is one thing i never want to do.

[LookedOver]

I'm a 1st time mum to be who's choosing to have a c-section and don't know why people have a right to question why I'd choose to do it that way!

I don't question people on why they're choosing to do the natural way which to me is something I'd never want to experience!

I have my reason's for choosing a c-section and doing it that way will not make me a terrible mother or make someone doing it naturally any better than me!

Why do women feel they need to question each other? Whats right for you may not be right for me! We are all doing the most amazing thing ever by bringing these gorgeous bundles into the world and should all be congratulated for carrying them and then birthing them in whatever fashion we choose!

[Lemonhead]

I dont think a c/s is "easier" as such but in my situation it would have been better.

As you know I was in induced labour for 25 hours and it was horrific and tore me so badly I was in agony from injury for 20 months after and needed 2 surgeries. I will most definitely be having a c/s next because my specialist has told me that my skin down there is all scar tissue and far too delicate to handle birth ever again.

In MY circumstance it would have been easier. The recovery time of 6 weeks doesnt bother me because after having recovery time of 20 months thats a walk in the park. The scar and stitches is nothing compared to two sphincterotomies, with a c/s and without the trauma to my perenial/bum (lol) area I could have considered a natural birth in the future etc etc... so for me yeah, way easier but everyone is different.

[halloweenmum]

Me, i do have a fear of trying for a VBAC even though that is wat i want, it does scare me to death that something would happen to bub but shouldnt i overcome that?

I feel the same, but I think that just by choosing the VBAC even though we are afraid, IS OVERCOMING it. Afraid yes, but not letting it change our decision to have a VBAC.

[Pinkzy]

I'm a 1st time mum to be who's choosing to have a c-section and don't know why people have a right to question why I'd choose to do it that way!

I don't question people on why they're choosing to do the natural way which to me is something I'd never want to experience!

I have my reason's for choosing a c-section and doing it that way will not make me a terrible mother or make someone doing it naturally any better than me!

Why do women feel they need to question each other? Whats right for you may not be right for me! We are all doing the most amazing thing ever by bringing these gorgeous bundles into the world and should all be congratulated for carrying them and then birthing them in whatever fashion we choose!

Couldn't of said it better myself. This will be my 2nd time at motherhood and I completely agree with you. Congrats and best wishes for your birth

[peanutbutter&jelly]

For me, both were amazing... my CS was an "elective" - DS was a footling breech, unable to be turned and I wouldn't have chosen to turn him even if he had've been a complete breech.
Harder recovery, definately. Nasty hospital stay which I hated - absolutely.
BUT...
my VB was such a massive personal achievement. Not to say that my CS wasn't, but my VBAC was amazing. It was so different to everything I'd been expecting and everything I'd been told... Different pain that felt necessary compared to my CS recovery. AND I can walk. And do exercise. It was such a novelty that I could go and have a shower after having Bella, that I could go to the bathroom and I could walk by myself. Oh, and that I could pick up my toddler, it was just perfect for me.

Having said that, not everyone has my experience. Not everyone has their waters broken, a few hours later has a low strength drip, pushes for 25 mins only and has a couple of tiny tears only, with no stitches. I feel incredibly lucky