How far along were you when you told your KIDS that you were pregnant?

**1+1=5** · 21-12-2009 08:29

Did you make that decision based on the age of your kids?

I'm thinking of telling my kids when I'm about 5 months pregnant or when I'm starting to really show. I'm scared of losing bub and I don't want my kids to experience loss just yet. I don't have a history of m/c, but you never know.

Anyhoo it would be great to hear what others have done

**Ffrenchknickers** · 21-12-2009 08:36

We told them as soon as we found out....showed them the tests

They were the first ones we told...our parents we didn't tell until later.

I figured if something bad happened we would all go through it together anyway as they would know something was up.

**Areca** · 21-12-2009 08:39

We told my kids when I was about 7 weeks. Didn't want my three year old (at the time) blurting it out but wanted her to know before my dating scan at 8 weeks.
I agree with Frenchie and DD1 loved being a part of it and she understood why I was sick for etc.....she was so helpful. DD2 was a bit young to really get it.

**MummyHas3boys** · 21-12-2009 09:09

When we fell PG with #2 DS was only about 16 months old, we told him mummy had a baby in her tumy but he didnt get it, untill i started to get bigger and he would point to it and say "baby"but even then i dont think he understood!

We are TTC #3 now and when i get PG I dont plan on telling the kids untill 12+ weeks for the same reasons as owen&noahsmum, if something happened i know it would break my oldest DS heart.

**1+1=5** · 21-12-2009 09:22

I think Owen would love the experience of seeing the HPT...I never thought of that. I'll chat to DH tonight about it and see what he thinks. hes such a party pooper and wants to play things safe.

**purplecat** · 21-12-2009 10:20

Originally Posted by Ffrenchstar

We told them as soon as we found out....showed them the tests

They were the first ones we told...our parents we didn't tell until later.

I figured if something bad happened we would all go through it together anyway as they would know something was up.

exact same for me, we told them straight away (aged 8, 10 and 12). If we experienced a loss then they would know something was up and we'd just explain it. Its sad, but its life. Kids can actually handle that type of loss better than adults half the time! We were very excited about the pregnancy and wanted to share our joy with them too, and we would have hated for them to hear it from someone else accidentally. Plus knowing I wasnt feeling that great and why meant they were very helpful around the house and in getting ready for school. DD even offered to cook dinner!

**Teegzie** · 21-12-2009 10:55

We still haven't told DD and I'm 21 weeks along. She is only 18 months old though and I doubt she would really get the idea if we tried to explain. Maybe closer to my EDD we'll tell her about the baby in my tummy, just so it isn't a total shock, but I still think until the baby arrives she won't quite get it.
We got a puppy and she is still surprised every morning when her dog in bed where she was the night before!

**Billy** · 21-12-2009 11:05

Rhianna is 3 and we haven't told her anything yet (I'm 11 weeks). We talk about being pregnant and 'the baby' in front of her all the time but she hasn't put 2 and 2 together hehe. We are waiting until I am showing more so she can really understand it, plus she has very little patience. If I tell her we're doing something on the weekend I hear about it Every. Single. Day. Lol. So the idea of her asking me everyday "Is the baby coming today?" for the next 6 months does not sound too fun lol.

If she was a bit older and had a better understanding of it all I would have told her immediately.

**Areca** · 21-12-2009 12:18

Originally Posted by Teegzie

We still haven't told DD and I'm 21 weeks along. She is only 18 months old though and I doubt she would really get the idea if we tried to explain. Maybe closer to my EDD we'll tell her about the baby in my tummy, just so it isn't a total shock, but I still think until the baby arrives she won't quite get it.
We got a puppy and she is still surprised every morning when her dog in bed where she was the night before!

You'd be surprised...dd1 understood at 18 months.

**elwoodgal** · 21-12-2009 13:10

We waited until the 20 week Scan & took her with us. My DD is 4 & a 1/2.
Didn't want to tell her any earlier for 2 reasons, 1. in case anything went wrong
2. I knew she would get excited & want to see the baby now!