am I mean?

[lucyp]

Today - I went to playgroup and they had monte carlo biscuits and bakers delight bun.

My DS made a b-line for the biscuits with the other children and I told him no - as he did not want his lunch. (despite being offered it). The mother who was near the bickies then said oh - poor bubby.. mean mummy.

I actually felt quite bad and I know I shouldn't - but it was as though I was depriving him .... anyway I would like to get your take on this kind of thing .

The comment aside - should I relax a little? am i being mean?

[Funkychicken]

No, you are not being mean-not at all. Your child's nutrition is such an important aspect of your parenting and you only get one go at it. Sweets are just that-sweets. Not something to be eaten prior to lunchtime. He'll thank you when he is older.

[Baby Girl]

If you don't want him eating monte carlo biccies or sweet buns then that is up to you. It does not make you a mean mummy because you obviously care about the amount of sugar and unneccesary food naughties your DS eats!!

I would much prefer if playgroups had fruit cut up and put out for the kiddies rather than sweet biscuits, so I can totally understand you saying no to him eating them. I would too!!

[Nickster]

I don't think you're mean - I actually changed playgroups because the last one I went to kept serving up rubbish like chocolate biscuits and pringles . My new playgroup now serves fresh fruit and crackers with vegemite etc, with any "naughty" mummy treats kept away from the kid's table and out of reach.

You are the one responsible for your child's good nutrition, don't feel mean, feel happy with yourself for caring so much. Oh, and give that other mum a clip over the ear!

[caz]

I don't think you are being mean at all, I would've done the same.

I think the other mother was in the wrong, who gives her the right to make a comment like that Your child = your rules

[shed]

I think the other mother should probably mind her own business.

That said, you might want to relax a little on the whole nutrition thing if you are stressing about whether or not your kid should have had a biscuit!!

But its your kid your rules, precisely.

[MumofMadd]

I would have done the same as you DS doesnty get sweet treats until after proper meals have been eaten all up. As for the other mother maybe she should keep her comments to herself or tell you what she thinks when the kids arent in earshot.

[Ana Gram]

How rude!!

Your should have countered with "poor baby - rude mummy"

I hate it when other people try to dictatet what you are feeding your kids especially when you try and keep them away from junk.

[Sarie]

Don't feel bad at all. I have this issue with my MIL all the time. If my boys don't eat their meals they don't get treats. But she always tries to give them something, she'll slip them lollies when we're at her house and I'm not looking and if they come here she'll bring them a bag of lollies. Which I chuck in the bin. I'm not a big fan of lollies, especially as they have genetic tooth problems in their family.

[kymmy]

It's terrible that ppl try to make mums feel guilty about ANYTHING.
I don't think it is mean of you to say no to your child.
I think its the job of parent to make these choices.
People don't ask me b4 they give my children treats and its frustrating.