I didnt know where to put this seeing as I dont think there is a partnered only section and besides I woudl like singles pov on this.
I just read a post in the singles section but didnt want to post in there in fear of getting my head ripped off, so I will try to explain myself here.
My mum was told by my nan (her mum) to leave 'kick my dad out and watch him crawl back" when I was about 11 I think. Well my dad didnt come back yay for him. He met someone he really clicked with and moved on. However, my mum sees him as the bad guy for moving on and getting re married and being happy etc. He and my step mum supported me, my sister and my mum for years. Of course I was told something else by my mum. She says we got kicked out of our home because my dad wanted to sell it etc etc all the nasty things. However years down the track (like last year or so) I find out that my dad and step mum had been paying for us to live there for ages and then gave my mum the option of just paying them the morgage money and buying it off them. She didnt like that so we moved.
Another story (which isnt my own and Im not all that familliar with) is my DF mum being a physco and insulting DF dad and making everyones life all the more difficult including herselves. This is years ago of course when they where jsut kids.
Now I hear these things all to offten, man leave women for whatever reason and women holds a grudge over man for life. Makes it hard for him to even have a fair go with his children, tells lies to the children about the dad, makes the dad out to be the bad guy to the children.
To me this isnt right. I could never do that to my DF is we broke up, I would never do that to my children. The way I look at it is that in most cases, its a problem between mother and father and they break up because of it.
So Im wondering for those who are in the situation of being single or parents have split up, does your mum hold a grudge? Do you hold a grudge? Why? if you/they do?
My mum does I think because my dad did remarry and she has no one. That is no ones fault but her own, yet to this day she has nothing nice to say abotu my dad, they man who she has two children to. The man she loved enough to marry and have two children to.