How long did adoption take?

[Alice284]

I just wanted to update people on our journey so that we may be of help to people in a similar situation.

After our second failed IVF attempt in July 2011 we had more tests and were referred to our states upmost authority on fertility. He looked at our case and told us we had two options if we wanted a child. The first was adoption, which he agreed was a long, painful and expensive process. The second was to travel overseas and do an IVF cycle using donor eggs - the process O/S is a million times faster and less complicated than Australia, he told us to not really even bother here. We thought about our options and then a few weeks later we went to the Adoption Info Session.

It was noted that applications for international adoption are decreasing however the waiting times are increasing. More children are being placed in their own countries. There are not thousands of orphans laying around dying like some people seem to think. On average from application you were looking at around 5+ years depending on the country, China's wait time is well over 5 years. All up with the fees and associated costs including travel and accommodations you are looking at around $50,000.00. Yep that's right, fifty thousand dollars. Domestic adoptions are basically non existent. They are encouraging more families into foster care and there was strong rumour that, in my state, laws were changing so that children in permanent foster care for over 3 years could be adopted by their foster parents. They really pushed this route along with the fostering of refugees. This is not an option for us as we are required to move states regularly for DH's job.

After this we decided that we just had to give donor egg IVF a shot as all up we were looking at $12,000.00 and that includes a two week trip to Europe (Zlin in The Czech Republic to be exact). We decided to take the advice of the specialist and contacted the clinic, they could fit us in within 10 weeks! We went and were very happy with the clinic and I am happy to say I am nearly 8 weeks pregnant with my beautiful 'adopted' eggs! If the morning sickness is anything to go by I'm hoping this one is here to stay.

We are still open to overseas adoption and are discussing putting in our paperwork before it expires this December. We feel very lucky to have been successful with our donor eggs the first time around and we will build our family through adoption, be they eggs or children!

Good luck to everyone else looking at this journey, it's long, it's expensive however it would have to be worth it! I'm happy to chat about my experience with donor eggs O/S, just message me.

[MummyNanny]

Congratulations Alice284, thats fantastic news

[chuy]

Hi!
I think time frames will vary based on many factors. It could be a few months to over a year


God Bless..!!

[Alice284]

Hi!
I think time frames will vary based on many factors. It could be a few months to over a year


God Bless..!!

Wow, I'm interested to know where you are adopting from if it's only taking a few months to a year? For starters the approvals process can take nearly a year and then once your files are made up you have to wait until your state is allowed to post more files to that country, they have small quotas every year. Even once your file is approved it might sit in your state office for another year or two. Once it is sent to the country and approved by them, which can take months, then for some countries the wait can be under a year.
Chuy, I suggest you check out the Attorney General's website on the inter country adoption programs for the most accurate and up to date information. There are lots of miss informed people out there spreading falsities about adoption, don't be one of them!

[Ellymoe]

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It was noted that applications for international adoption are decreasing however the waiting times are increasing. More children are being placed in their own countries. There are not thousands of orphans laying around dying like some people seem to think. On average from application you were looking at around 5+ years depending on the country, China's wait time is well over 5 years. All up with the fees and associated costs including travel and accommodations you are looking at around $50,000.00. Yep that's right, fifty thousand dollars. Domestic adoptions are basically non existent. They are encouraging more families into foster care and there was strong rumour that, in my state, laws were changing so that children in permanent foster care for over 3 years could be adopted by their foster parents. They really pushed this route along with the fostering of refugees. This is not an option for us as we are required to move states regularly for DH's job.

Thankyou for this info! I'm not looking at adopyion (currently preg through IVF) but I get SICK of the views expressed by some who are anti-IVF that those who go down that path are selfish because there are so many kids needing to be adopted and overseas adoption is easier/cheaper than IVF! Glad to hear from someone who actually knows what they are talking about and has been given the info

[Tanzanite]

From the experience of a very close friend, for them it took 2-3 years.

[jackie7]

Alice congrats! ....Ingore Chuy they are from the US.


Gurtling time lenghts have long since expanded from those that have gone through it perviously.

As for Local adoption I have known a few couples that have actually been placed with children locally - the ones placed seem to be couples that maintained a level of contact with their SW's very two or so months.

[Alice284]

As for Local adoption I have known a few couples that have actually been placed with children locally - the ones placed seem to be couples that maintained a level of contact with their SW's very two or so months.

This is interesting, I'll keep it in mind. Thanks for that info. I should ring the office soon as we are wait listed for the next domestic info session - we have to go to that before we can express interest and start the process. We've been waiting for a year for them to schedule a meeting!

[mythjen]

My married younger brother just adopted an infant boy, aside from their own set of twins --- just willing to be the more doting father hat he is. Bless his kind heart.

"A father is one who rears and cares for a child, not the one who justhelped made it." --- from a Friend

[Maybelline]

A close friend adopted her girl from Ethiopia in 2009..her girl was 1.5 yrs

It took almost 10yrs to gro through process..I think over $15.000 to do it..

Australia has now closed the adoption through Ethiopia ...very sad!!!

Her daughter is divine!!!!