I just wanted to update people on our journey so that we may be of help to people in a similar situation.
After our second failed IVF attempt in July 2011 we had more tests and were referred to our states upmost authority on fertility. He looked at our case and told us we had two options if we wanted a child. The first was adoption, which he agreed was a long, painful and expensive process. The second was to travel overseas and do an IVF cycle using donor eggs - the process O/S is a million times faster and less complicated than Australia, he told us to not really even bother here. We thought about our options and then a few weeks later we went to the Adoption Info Session.
It was noted that applications for international adoption are decreasing however the waiting times are increasing. More children are being placed in their own countries. There are not thousands of orphans laying around dying like some people seem to think. On average from application you were looking at around 5+ years depending on the country, China's wait time is well over 5 years. All up with the fees and associated costs including travel and accommodations you are looking at around $50,000.00. Yep that's right, fifty thousand dollars. Domestic adoptions are basically non existent. They are encouraging more families into foster care and there was strong rumour that, in my state, laws were changing so that children in permanent foster care for over 3 years could be adopted by their foster parents. They really pushed this route along with the fostering of refugees. This is not an option for us as we are required to move states regularly for DH's job.
After this we decided that we just had to give donor egg IVF a shot as all up we were looking at $12,000.00 and that includes a two week trip to Europe (Zlin in The Czech Republic to be exact). We decided to take the advice of the specialist and contacted the clinic, they could fit us in within 10 weeks! We went and were very happy with the clinic and I am happy to say I am nearly 8 weeks pregnant with my beautiful 'adopted' eggs! If the morning sickness is anything to go by I'm hoping this one is here to stay.
We are still open to overseas adoption and are discussing putting in our paperwork before it expires this December. We feel very lucky to have been successful with our donor eggs the first time around and we will build our family through adoption, be they eggs or children!
Good luck to everyone else looking at this journey, it's long, it's expensive however it would have to be worth it! I'm happy to chat about my experience with donor eggs O/S, just message me.