Do you leave bubs with your Other half overnight?

**Just Add Water** · 21-09-2009 14:18

For those of you who aren't comfortable leaving your babies with someone else overnight does this include your partner? Have you ever had a night, or even a full day where you went out and left your partner to do it all?

I don't even hesitate to leave DS (or the older three) with his father. I go to early markets with a girlfriend and leave him to tend to all 4, I've gone away for a weekend and left them all at home. I don't see it as any different from him going out or away and me being at home with the kids (obviously if you're breastfeeding exclusively then this is different, I understand that).

Just curious

**Mrs Nietzsche** · 21-09-2009 14:22

I am struggling with this right this second. DH wants to take DS (will be 15 mths) to see his family in Sydney for a night. But they are really boisterous and there's about 12 people living in one house etc. I just feel really uncomfortable with it.

For the night just here would be totally fine though, I often go to the movies or whatever (htere's been no call for me to go overnight).

DH will be taking DS through the night once the new baby arrives.

**traseal** · 21-09-2009 14:22

I BF and also the bread winner in our family so DF has DS full time at home. He does wonderfully!! I have nor problems leaving him and i love sharing the parenting 50/50!! And they have a really close bond which is grat too.
I cant leave him with anyone at nights though, he gets very up-set at night time if he wakes and im not there....but i dont mind

**MsMummy** · 21-09-2009 15:51

Originally Posted by traseal

I BF and also the bread winner in our family so DF has DS full time at home. He does wonderfully!! I have nor problems leaving him and i love sharing the parenting 50/50!! And they have a really close bond which is grat too.
I cant leave him with anyone at nights though, he gets very up-set at night time if he wakes and im not there....but i dont mind

We're exactly the same, except my partner studies as well so we use part time FDC.

He's just as capable as I am.

I don't know if I could leave the baby all night though as he gets very distressed when he wakes up in the middle of the night with no boobs!

**~Temet Nosce~** · 21-09-2009 16:48

He has been left with dd for a few hours at night after shes gone to bed and I've gone out, but I've always been back to get her up in the morning.
That's not to say I wouldn't though, I'm sure he would manage fine and the need for it just hasn't come up yet. The only reason I'd feel weird about it is because I am yet to not be there in the morning when she wakes up and I'd miss her

**BabelFish** · 21-09-2009 21:56

Haven't read the whole thread but yes, absolutely I would. We parent absolutely equally in every way, including time spent and every, single duty.

So, even though there's never been any call for me to go anywhere overnight away from DP, I would leave our daughter with him without a second thought. He is just as good at being her parent as I am! I'm very lucky that my DP has been so hands-on, and so in love with her, and so involved as a parent - 50/50 and often even more especially when I'm tired. I know that it isn't that way for everyone.

**kar** · 21-09-2009 14:24

Yep, aside from the BF issue don't even think about it. Haven't done all night but just last week I went out for dinner with my friends after giving F his dinner milk.

He is just as capable as I am of looking after him aside from boobies. Things may not get done precisely how I would do it and the house might look like a bomb site when I get back but a small price to pay for some time out and he likes having time alone with F.

**Areca** · 21-09-2009 14:27

Yep absolutely. As soon as they are able to go a decent stretch of time without needing a bf then Dh takes all the kids somewhere.

I'm going away this weekend and leaving DH at home with the kids. I'll be three hours away and it's the first time I won't have DD2 overnight but I have no hesitation in going....DH is a fantastic father! I trust him with the kids 100%....if I didn't I wouldn't have had kids with him.

Me · 21-09-2009 14:33

DD1 no prob, DD2 is exclusively bf, so wont be apart anytime soon. i left DD2 with dh for about an hour though when i got my first tooth pulled about 3 weeks ago and he struggled and she was upset so I think that's a definate sign that the 2 of them aren't ready to be left without me just yet.

**MothersMilk** · 21-09-2009 14:36

I haven't left DD with DH alone over night but he has taken DD for the day.
If i have an assignment due or i'm studying for an exam or even if i'm just stressed and need time out DH will happily take DD for a day out.
He is a great father and i have no problem with him looking after DD without me. They always have fun together and i am a happier mum after some space (or sleep) sometimes.