I have found out through very deceptive and dishonest means that FOB is taking drugs, namely smoking pot and lines of coke (cocaine)
He lives interstate and DS sees him around 2-4 times a year.
He flies over and picks DS up and flies back with him.
So DS is a 4 hour plane flight away from me, it's horrible and I count down every minute.
I feel even worse now knowing that FOB is still using drugs (he has previously told me that he had stopped). I have no idea if he uses them whilst DS is in his care, but I hate the thought of DS being so far away from me with someone that could be under the influence of any number of substances.
We have no formal parenting plan in order. I'm in the middle of getting one organised because HE requested it.
I can't confront him because the way I found all this out is a breach of his privacy...
Any thoughts or advice?