Why do you care? Why do you judge?

**Just Add Water** · 09-09-2009 10:47

Why do you care what other people think of your ability to parent your child?

Why do you criticise how other people raise their children?

**nothanksbye** · 09-09-2009 10:49

I dont..

I will if there is abuse but as far as breast/formula.. immunise/non cc/gentle

They are all not my business. I parent the way I think its right for MY kids. I have no idea how to parent anyone elses, some of the time i dont even know if i am getting it right with mine...lol

**Cordelia** · 09-09-2009 10:56

i think it comes down to people's own insecurities

**Just Add Water** · 09-09-2009 10:56

Originally Posted by Nomadic

Why do you care what other people think of your ability to parent your child?

I don't

I love learning about all the different parenting styles and I take a bit from column A and a bit from column B. Sometimes I learn things that make me change how I do something but I really couldn't care less what other people think of how we parent our children.

Why do you criticise how other people raise their children?

I really try not too. I have opinions on things and if I feel it's warranted then I'll share them but for the most part I really don't see that there is anything to gain by putting someone else down.

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**Chickadee** · 09-09-2009 11:03

Originally Posted by Nomadic

Why do you care what other people think of your ability to parent your child?

I don't generally worry about what other people think except when I have already judged myself as having a bad mummy moment, and then I fear that someone else will chime in and accuse me of what I'm already thinking. An example: one time that I DD was mucking around at her swimming lesson, I got fed up and pulled her out of the pool by her arm. As soon as I did it I realised I might have gone overboard - Normally at swimming I would simply get down to her level and give her a stern warning, so I was already aware in myself that my reaction was in anger and over the top. And then I worried that other parents were staring and judging me.

But I do like getting positive feedback from family, friends or strangers on how I parent. It reassures me that I'm not all bad.

Why do you criticise how other people raise their children?

I don't. I'll admit that I may judge them in my head, but I wouldn't say it to them or in gossip about them.

**em1984** · 09-09-2009 11:08

because I dont like being made to doubt myself. I'm new to this parenting thing and its damn hard and its made even harder when what you are doing is put into question. I'm sensitive too so that might have a lot to do with it, and when someone pulls you up on something you are doing in a negative way it can make you feel pretty inadequate. I also become fairly passionate about the way I do things (breastfeeding, using cloth etc) and its hard when you feel this way not to become sensitive to it and react to criticism. I try not to criticise others because I know how it feels. I think it's very different on here, though, as you are not looking at someone face to face, so its easier to say stuff you wouldnt normally say, which is probably unfair, I dunno.

**sophiesmommy** · 09-09-2009 11:08

Hi

I don't care and I don't criticise , I bring up my children the best way I know how , and I think everyone trys to be the best parent they can be ,everyone has different lives and situations ... But there are some parents who abuse and mistreat there children , that Is something I DO NOT LIKE

I'm always open and willing to try different ways of parenting , We can only do our best and if we fail in some areas all we can do Is try try again

**PeppaH** · 09-09-2009 11:10

I generally dont care what others think lol About my parenting skill or anything else.

I dont really judge much either, I might notice something that someone is doing that I would find gross or not right etc. I get over it though and just think "whatever".

**TripleTime** · 09-09-2009 13:58

I couldnt give a rats backside what other people do.

I do however get nasty when people comment on my parenting & say my children are small for their age.

**jembelina** · 09-09-2009 14:10

You know what? I do care what other people do with their kids. Not in a judgemental, critical, I'm gunna ram my opinion down their throat kind of way......in a I wonder if they know? Kinda way.

Hmmmm, I'm struggling to put into words exactly what I mean. But I'd hate to be doing something with my kids that wasn't the best thing to be doing, simply because I didn't know better. I'd want someone to tell me......"Hey, did you know X isn't great for kids brain development?" So then I know and if I choose to, I can change the way I do things.

Hope that makes sense!!