Hi my name is Sara.
Hi my name is Sara.
Last edited by Sarak7; 04-09-2006 at 22:06.
You poor thing - you are not alone - there alots of mum's on this website listening and here for support. Don't let him pull you down - you are worth more than that! Can't say why men do what they do if only there was a manual in this lifetime - it might make it easier but unfortunately life gives us twist and turns.
I am a single mum to Chanel now going on 7 months it has only been 7 weeks since I left the dad - I have bad days and good days. The one thing that gets me through is knowing in time things do get better and this website is your link to knowing your not alone.
I am sending you a big hug and hear to talk if you need to.
you poor poor thing i am so sorry for what has happened to you i just want to give u a big sorry i dont have alot of advice but just try and keep your head high...
Luke- April 05
Mia- March 2007
Eva- June 2009
the good thing about bubhub is that we are all hear to listen to you and to help you in times of crisis. you know you can do this. the just needs to think things through and grow up. maybe once the baby is born and he is a little older - he will feel readier to be a dad to his baby. i think joining the police service is a good idea - it will help him to mature.
you need to cry. but then you need to be strong. move to where you have a support group. it will be hard as a single mum but thing get better and the first time you lay eyes on your brand new bub things will be ok.
remember we are all here for you. we give advice and hugs when you need it. stay stong and everything will be better than you think.
DD: 7 DS: 4
DS2: 2 Jellybean Due Jan 2013
& DSD1:20, DSD2: 19, DSS:17
to you darling....
I am 37 weeks pregnant and have been alone for almost the entirety of the pregnancy.... my ex played some pretty cruel mind games at the outset so I know in a way how you feel..... all I can say is that the best thing I did was shut him out completely, as at least that made him come to a firm decision about where he stood and what role he wanted to play, which he has decided is none.....
It will take time to come to terms with the fact that you are doing this alone.... but remember there are resources out there to help you along that path.... speak to your hospital/care provider.... there are services they can put you in touch with that will give you the emotional help you need, along with the logistical support to go it alone....
I am lucky in a way, in that I too grew up without a dad.... this ideally was not where I envisaged myself to be, but in the same breath I know I can provide my little darling with all the love and support she will ever need, and both of us will grow into stronger people for it!
Just remember to have faith in yourself and your abilities.... his actions are his doing, and not at all your fault.... by raising yourself up to cope with this and do a darn good job you are showing the world that you know what you and the little one are worth and deserve, and that you will accept nothing less in your lives...
Always hear to chat if you want! again
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing - Helen Keller
& To you
He may just be scared & confused
Stay strong & look after yourself & like others have said people on bubhub are great & when you feel you need to just log on for some support you will always get it here.
Take Care xx
STILL HERE JUST NOT AROUND
I only hope you stay strong for yourself and your bub.
Mama to 5 T 12y, N 8y, A 6y and free bub J 3y D is here too!
As normal as life can get
What a difficult time for you! Perhaps he's just having cold feet? Be strong and take care of yourself! There is plenty of support here for you at the hub! Good luck!
Bec - 27
Emily - My beautiful IVF baby, born 13/02/09
I have no advice sorry. But just wanted to say be strong, I know it is hard. That is terrible, I hope you have got some support from some friends or your family?
Sending you lots and lots and lots of hugs!!!!!
I'm so sorry this has happened. And I think everything feels so much worse when your pregnant, because your emotions are already all over the place!
Just keep your chin up and look to the future. Think about that beautiful baby of yours and how beautiful it will be to hold it in your arms.
Perhaps the father is just feeling stressed out at the moment... i mean, its not like he left you as soon as you fell pregnant, so part of him is excited. He just needs some space, because its hard on the men aswell. But, if this is what he really wants then unfortunately you cannot stop him, because you cant force someone to love another person. All the best wishes for you and the bubba!
The bubhub crew is only a few mouse clicks away. So please dont be afraid to ask for help