Anencephaly -friend

**mum2JLH** · 03-07-2006 16:28

ok my friend(she is not a close one, but i know her) is having her baby today at just 20 weeks gestitation. The docs told her that bubs has Anencephaly (where the scull and brain are not there)

i dont know what to say, or how to act. I know all the sorry's wont help. What to do.?

**angcaltam** · 03-07-2006 16:33

I'm sorry to hear that. All I can say is just be there for her. She is going to need all the support that she can get at this very difficult time.

**MumsieMel** · 03-07-2006 16:33

Just show your support and be there if she needs you

**JasmineLouise** · 03-07-2006 16:50

Just offer her your support and be her ear if she needs to talk. People handle things differently... some people would prefer if you were there with them to talk where others might not want to discuss the situation at all. Be receptive to her wants and needs. Goodluck Rachel

**ForeverMine** · 03-07-2006 16:55

I had a friend who went through this only a couple of months ago, just before I found out I was pregnant.

As others have said, offer her support. I found I could be there for her more when I knew exactly what anencephaly was. I was able to be there for her more, instead of "whys" and "what's that mean"...

I just googled it.

It's heartbreaking isn't it?

**mum2JLH** · 03-07-2006 17:00

yer, i googled it too. its hard to see the pics, but untill you do, i know what she will be faced with now..

**draught** · 03-07-2006 19:53

This happened to my best friend. I gave her lots of hugs, let her cry, cried with her, and did things to make her feel better - cooking meals etc. It is a big grieving process - so big cyber hugs to you and your friend - it is heartbreaking to go through. On the brighter side my friend has gone on to have one healthy baby and is pregnant with another - the chances of it repeating in the same family are extremely small. Probably not what she wants to hear now but useful to tell her if she falls pregnant in the future and is worried.