This may sound a little harsh, but my mother has always been a thorn in my side. Despite this though i have always loved her unconditionally & gone out of my way to help her out.
My mother is always 'sick'. If she doesn't have kidney disease or tumours she is dying of emphysema. That was when i was 8 & i'm nearly 30 now & she is still alive. I just can't take her seriously.
On top of all that she chain smokes & is a serious alcoholic. She never rings me when she is sober, she sits at home all day in her tiny unit complaining about how no one loves her or wants to see her yet she doesn't try & better her life. She hasn't had a paid job since i was 4. I'm just sick of this "poor me" bull****.
We had an argument around xmas last year. I had hold of some sensitive information about a deceased family member. I know it was stupid but i told my mum just trying to get it off my chest & i didn't think she would repeat it. Anyway she went to the first person who wasn't supposed to hear it which was her mother (my grandma) & blabbed.
Soon after i stopped talking to mum & tried to cut any contact with her. It was the straw that broke the camels back. Anyway my mum decides to pull her usual stunt of "oh i'm sick please don't be angry with me." Two weeks later she has a stroke & is in hospital. My grandma rings me & says please see your mum she needs you blah blah blah.
Ok now your probably all going to hate me- i refused to see her. I was scared that she had the stroke but really hesitant because i thought is this just another one of her tricks? I know people can't fake a stroke, but i thought she might have been making it sound worse than it actually was.
My mum recovered thankfully but i still refused to see her. My grandma rings me one day & asks if i can see my mum & to bring the kids etc. I tried to tell my grandma about how mum has psychologically abused me for so long i don't know what to believe anymore. She then has the gall to tell me that i'm no longer her grandchild & hung up. WTF! I know she has my mum's best interests at heart but that is just cold. Now the rest of my family knows what is going on but is pressuring me to forgive both my mum & grandma. Why should i? I've put up with so much i've had a gutful. Am i that horrible?