Toddler wrist leash/harness

**WeThree** · 18-07-2006 21:07

Oh not again!! How embarressment

Off to empty it now...
Gee its tough being popular

**Lil X-men** · 18-07-2006 21:18

Now everytime I go out with my child I am going to worry that I will bump into someone giving me a bad look because because I am "choosing the easy option" by using a harness. It's like the guilt I had to deal with when bottle feeding in public, it's just plain craziness!!!!
Sometimes I feel so frustrated, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Who cares what the experts say, or anyone says on here, just do what you feel is the best option for you and your kids.
I am going to keep using the harness as I know that no one will be stealing off with my little man if my back is turned for a second, and I will try not to feel gulity about using it too!

**Lunar** · 18-07-2006 21:31

OK, now here it is....
I'd like to see ANYONE try and make my DD walk beside them while out. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!! She runs off, and I am very scared that she will hurt herself. This in no way is the 'easy way out' for me. It is for her safety! She doesn't have any danger sense at all. And if she doesn't want to sit in the pram she will kick and scream and carry on like I am ripping her legs off or something. She has a harness that looks like a little back pack come stuffed dog, it is pretty cute and she loves dogs so she doesn't mind wearing it. This is the ONLY way I can get her to walk beside me. It has a 'tail' that I can hook around my wrist. She walk pretty good with it on, only stopping once in a while to throw herself on the floor, but hey, she's still learning and I consider the harness more like training wheels.

Until you yourself have a child that is a very stubborn and willful child (to say the very least) please don't judge others, we are all just trying to do the best for our children.

**reAllytee** · 18-07-2006 21:33

Julie

Your a great mama dont ever let yourself think otherwise

**Harmony83** · 18-07-2006 21:36

Isn't it bizarre how such a small thing could cause so much contraversy (sp), must we add this to the list of things for us mothers too argue about rather than support - breast vs bottle, disposable vs cloth, co-sleeping vs independant sleeping now harness vs no harness

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Me, personally, I am looking into getting a harness for my 15 1/2 mth old boy.
I think of the harness as an extension of a mums hand. I think its alot safer (especially in this day) to have a harness on a child than risk losing them, it only takes 1/2 second for you to blink and they are gone... I think it would be more traumatic for a child to get lost in a big shopping centre then for them to have a harness on...

**Lunar** · 18-07-2006 21:38

Originally Posted by Harmony83

Isn't it bizarre how such a small thing could cause so much contraversy (sp), must we add this to the list of things for us mothers too argue about rather than support - breast vs bottle, disposable vs cloth, co-sleeping vs independant sleeping now harness vs no harness

...

Me, personally, I am looking into getting a harness for my 15 1/2 mth old boy.
I think of the harness as an extension of a mums hand. I think its alot safer (especially in this day) to have a harness on a child than risk losing them, it only takes 1/2 second for you to blink and they are gone... I think it would be more traumatic for a child to get lost in a big shopping centre then for them to have a harness on...

Exactly! Go on, be a bad mum, buy a harness....

JJ....

**Lil X-men** · 18-07-2006 21:38

Thank you Allyoo

I think we are all good mums on here, but we get so crazy about what is the best for our kids, we just have to make decisions and hope at the end of the day that we are doing the right thing!!

**Lil X-men** · 18-07-2006 21:40

Originally Posted by Harmony83

Isn't it bizarre how such a small thing could cause so much contraversy (sp), must we add this to the list of things for us mothers too argue about rather than support - breast vs bottle, disposable vs cloth, co-sleeping vs independant sleeping now harness vs no harness

...

Me, personally, I am looking into getting a harness for my 15 1/2 mth old boy.
I think of the harness as an extension of a mums hand. I think its alot safer (especially in this day) to have a harness on a child than risk losing them, it only takes 1/2 second for you to blink and they are gone... I think it would be more traumatic for a child to get lost in a big shopping centre then for them to have a harness on...

Very true indeed, like I said you are damned if you do and damned if you don't with everything to do with parenting lol!!