Just need your opinions/ ideas.
DD for the last 2 weeks, on and off, at night, will say that her vagina area is sore. The first night we thought 'ok, maybe didnt wipe herself properly at school' and there was no redness or indicator of chaffing. She wears stockings to school so i dont know if thats whats bothering her.
Anyway, i put some vaseline on it because she was beside herself with saying "it hurts".
She's not expressed any pain when weeing, but since that night, she will say "ow its sore!" and want the vaseline maybe every two to three nights.
I had another look and there is no redness or chaffing, and no indication that she is in pain when weeing. And if i say "theres nothing wrong, you wont need cream tonight", she goes nuts saying it hurts.
I have a feeling the "its sore" / cream scenario is so she can enjoy the feeling of the cream? Because its vaseline, i let her put it on herself, and she knows where it hurts... I put it on her groin, thinking it would help, and she was saying "no i want it in the part (clitoris, etc) too". So i let her put it there. When she says it hurts, theres no tears, nothing.
She's 5 so has obviously began to 'feel' and 'notice' herself. She often has a good feel on the loo and before i say ill have a look. I dont look every time, ive looked for the redness maybe 4 times. Maybe shes feeling herself more that i dont notice so she is making it sore?
So I just want advice on how to handle this?
I dont want to diminish her telling me when she is sore, or if it is hurting, because (god forbid) if she was ever hurt, i want her to tell me. But, the 'its sore' thing - it never happens during the day, its only at night. She's not having any issues with sleep/ school, anything else like that.
But, i dont want to encourage this habit of nightly cream, with drawing attention to it.
Of course i dont care if she feels herself (its hers), i just dont want to make a big deal out of it.... know what i mean?
She hasnt lost bladder control, doesnt have any discharge, nothing like that.