I'm a first time mum and we all know that nobody can tell us exactly what labour and birth is like. However I did learn a lot while in labour and thought I might share a couple of things, maybe making it easier for others. My labour took 5-6 hours, and even though it was hard work, it was better than expected.
1. Throughout my pregnancy I was very calm, people used to comment on how calm I was. I was scared of what was to come, but I knew there was no point in being uptight. I tried to bring this into my labour and birth.
2. As soon as my contractions were 5 mins apart I remember one getting to me so badly that I cried out in pain which in turn made the contraction more painful! I realised that of course our natural instinct is to fight against the contraction, the pain, but it only makes the pain worse! So I thought I would go with the contraction instead. When a contraction would come on I would visualise what my body was trying to do and with all my might I tried to overcome the pain with deep breaths and watch the contraction come, do it's job and help it do it's job, then visualise it leaving.4 hours later I was in the hospital admissions room and I was fully dialated (made it just in time). At that point, contractions were on top of each other and I was just experiencing constant pain. I realised I must go with the contraction, that's what my body is doing and I have to stop fighting it! Next contraction I visualise my body opening up and baby moving down and just as I did that my body automatically pushed! I was not expecting it at all! It was on, an hour later my son was born.
This might seem like the obvious thing to do I don't know but it certainly helped me. I believe these were the reasons my labour and birth was quicker and better than I thought.
If you have any birthing secrets and it can be anything, please share. It might not work for everone. It might seem obvious, but it probably wont be obvious to others. I believe it can make mothers to be a lot calmer which is one of my secrets.