Wedding 2 wks after c/s- would you have felt ok to go?

**happycat** · 30-06-2009 14:12

Hi all
I have been invited to a friends wedding on 11th dec which will approx be 2 weeks after my scheduled c/section on the 25th November.

I'm thinking that I wont feel up to the 1.5 hour drive and wedding with a 2 week old only a week out of hospital after the c/s and am thinking to say no, but I know my friend will be a upset by this. I have hinted to her and she thinks I will just bring the baby and all will be good.

What do you think, don't really know how I feel as this will be my first c/s, and I don't want to pull out of going at the last moment after she has already paid for my and DH places.

Wdyt?

**missie_mack** · 30-06-2009 14:21

Me , myself.. no

I didn't even like being in a car at that stage because of the seat belt position and my CS wound. Remembering your generally in hospital for around 5 days after your CS so this will be your first week home

**SassyMummy** · 30-06-2009 14:22

I would have been up to it. Most of a wedding is just sitting around anyway... there's no reason you have to get up and dance around... just sitting should be fine.

I went on a full-day shopping trip 10 days after my caesarean. I was fine. You gotta move a little bit slower than usual, but I'd manage with a wedding easily.

**2s'nuff** · 30-06-2009 14:33

I'd say no. You might be up for the drive there and the sitting around at the wedding, but you might not.
I know scar wise I would have been fine, but energy wise I would have been a right-off.

If you're feeling up to it you could always just go to the ceremony (I know it's a long drive just for that, but it might apease your friend).

Lisa

**pink x 2** · 30-06-2009 14:39

OMG No way for me!!!

Not only will you be sleep deprived but also the last thing on my mind would have been getting all dressed up for a wedding. My ob/gyn also said to avoid car trips for at least 3-4 weeks.
I questioned him why and he said that god forbid if I was to get in a car accident, the chance of the internal sutures rupturingis very high and then you can start bleeding internally even from a minor accident if the seat belt is across your tummy.
I guess its up to you but just be careful if you do go. Even though you may feel 100% fine, my dr said that its the internal stuff that you can't see that takes alot longer to heal, thats the reason you aren't suppose to lift heavy things for 6 weeks.

**mim1** · 30-06-2009 14:42

I would personally not do it. You will have only been home for a week, you'll have a newborn who will be feeding frequently and the stress of a 1.5 hour car trip is more than you need.

If it was 10 or 20 minutes from home and you had the option of pulling out at the last minute, then it's a different matter.

Don't worry about offending your friend. It's unreasonable of her to expect this of you, reasonable to ask you, just unreasonable to expect you'll be 100% fine with it.

**BabelFish** · 30-06-2009 14:51

I wouldn't do it. I'm sure your friend will understand - perhaps if it wasn't such a long drive but I don't think I'd be up to it. Not even from the caesarian perspective necessarily but just from the fact that you'll have a two-week-old and will probably be knackered!

**Mrs Nietzsche** · 30-06-2009 14:58

I honestly think that would be compromising your recovery. You might be up to a wedding, where you can move around if necessary, get other people to help, but that long in one position in the car will be awful.

Sorry

**TripleTime** · 30-06-2009 15:31

Your body, your call.

But for me, id say no. After mine i couldnt sit in the car for longer than 15 minutes & bummpy roads were not kind.
With a 2 week old as well, id be reluctant to go.

Im not going to a wedding in may next year due to not wanting anyone to babysit our 3 than 12month olds.

**Cheerio** · 30-06-2009 15:48

Happycat

I know for me there is no way I could have gone. If it was local yeah maybe but when my DS was born my DD (20 months at the time) was so out of whack that she pretty well clung to me for the first week I was out of hospital so there would be no way I could get her babysat (even her favourite people in the world who look after her regularly, ie nanna & poppa wouldn't cut it at the time). I really found it was a bonding and re-settling time for us a family.

I guess it also depends on how close a friend she is? I know my close friends would definately be sad but would never expect me to be there so soon after. Good luck deciding its a toughie!