do you give looks

[workin'mumof2]

to anyone?

this is a general question for anything really

do you give a look if someone looks different. maybe there a goth?
do you give them a look if there hair is different, maybe they have dreadlocks?
do you give looks if someone is bottlefeeding?
do you give looks if someone is breastfeeding past a certain age?
do you give looks to tantruming children?

WHY?

honestly i dont.

who am i to judge what people do or how people look? or how people parent?

it frustrates me that people feel the need to give me looks (i dont notice my dh does) while im breastfeeding my 14.5month old daughter. they also give looks when my son has a meltdown. (he has asd)

why look and shake heads.

[3bubsplus1]

I am not judgemental at all I never second glance at different people Goths/Emo/Hippy.
Nor do I ever glance at any feeding baby.

The only time i give looks is to those parents hurling swear words at their little kiddies or abusing them openly............Then I give some great looks

[em1984]

I look but it doesnt always mean I'm judging, and I NEVER shake my head at anything.....I look because curiosity gets the better of me, i'm only human....I always try not to openly judge anyway b/c I know how it feels to have it done to me....

[traseal]

I look at people who look me up and down. I will stop in my tracks and stare at them and look them up and down....its amazing how quick they stop!!
i may be guilty of eyeing parents off though when there babies are crying and they ignore them

[jag5000]

I might look at someone who looks a bit different to normal.. but not in a judgement way, just curious and interested! as for bottle feeding, breastfeeding, or tantrums.. well, I might look, but usually at the cute baby, or an "oh gosh, I have been there!" look at a child throwing a tantrum. I understand we all get 'bad looks' for something.. but just remember sometimes it's just curiosity, or you never know.. maybe even admiration!

[jag5000]

i may be guilty of eyeing parents off though when there babies are crying and they ignore them

actually.. gotta say I am guilty of that too .. the ones that are obviously ignoring their newborn babies cries.

[lokibird]

I look but it doesnt always mean I'm judging, and I NEVER shake my head at anything.....I look because curiosity gets the better of me, i'm only human....I always try not to openly judge anyway b/c I know how it feels to have it done to me....

I'm the same. Unfortunatley there have been time when my "looks" have been misinterpreted (understandably) so i should probably stop!!

[CrankyAndTired]

I dont know if I give looks, I certainly don't do it consciously.. But in honesty i judge all this time, just in my head.

If a baby is screaming and the mother is doing nothing to comfort him/her, I think "God - Comfort your child!!" - and then I remember the times when DS has been inconsolable and I might have been in the exact same situation..

If a child is obviously misbehaving, I might give the parent a look of sympathy.

When I see someone breastfeeding I do my best not to look in that direction at all, because I do see it as a private thing (when i breastfed in public I still liked to maintain as much privacy as possible, so for me its a do unto others type thing)

In honesty I probably would have a reaction to seeing an older infant/toddler breastfed, simply because its so RARE - I dont actually think I've ever seen anyone bfing a bub over 12months... So yes, that would make me look twice I guess. I'd never stand there and shake my head! (even if I was judging inside, which is possible.)

Interesting topic. I'll keep it in mind next time I'm out shopping and take more notice my reactions or lack of reaction when in that situation..

[BabelFish]

I look all the time but it's usually because I can't help checking out little babies. They are so adorable they make me cry.

[Mumma88]

I might look at someone who looks a bit different to normal.. but not in a judgement way, just curious and interested! as for bottle feeding, breastfeeding, or tantrums.. well, I might look, but usually at the cute baby, or an "oh gosh, I have been there!" look at a child throwing a tantrum. I understand we all get 'bad looks' for something.. but just remember sometimes it's just curiosity, or you never know.. maybe even admiration!

Same.

A few times that I have been stared at and responded to the person it has ended in me being embarrassed.

One time we were shopping and DS1 was playing up big time.. DH and I were trying to calm him down when we noticed people sitting at a Cafe staring at us.. after I calmed DS down I walked over pulled up a chair and said 'Since you just stared at me while I was dealing with my son I am going to stare at you while you eat and see how you like it' .. the lady responded with 'I was watching because I have been there and down that and you were handling it a lot better then me, your son is lucky to have you as his mum'

Another time was only a few weeks ago... we were wating in a Drs room to be seen. DS2 was bored and getting really grumpy. Every time he made a noise or moved three older ladies would stare at him.. after about 40mins of them staring at his every move I said to DS loud enough for them to hear ' Can you please sit still and be quite beacuse those ladies keep staring at you' ... one piped up and said 'We are only looking because of how well behaved he has been while waiting our grandkids would be a lot worse'

actually.. gotta say I am guilty of that too .. the ones that are obviously ignoring their newborn babies cries.

Guilty too.. I cant stand hearing newborns cry