Marriage or Baby Next?!

**Cinta** · 22-06-2006 18:13

DF and I were discussing (I know we have only just had Imogen but we just like to plan things out) whether or not to TTC later on this year or to get married first.

We really don't know? Any ideas?

No rush to decide, we were just thinking.

**Niki** · 22-06-2006 18:19

well me and df wana ttc in about 3months or so, i want my bubbas close then we will marry after that

**JATS** · 22-06-2006 18:20

depends �n wether you want to "be married" or "have a wedding"

If you just want to be married theres nothing stopping you getting it done at a registry or a very small intimate ceremony, not much planning involved.

If you want to have a wedding, I'd do it later on.

Hubby and I are doing both!

We had our little ceremony, so we were married, but it wasn't much of a wedding IYKWIM, we plan on renewing our vows when we can afford to throw the huge party we want! No pressure to get it done by a certain time!

**Mum&bubs** · 22-06-2006 18:21

We had our 2nd bubs before we got married but we plan on marrying before our third

It all depends on what you two want

**LA62** · 22-06-2006 18:23

Im 28 and got pregnant on honeymoon, when i was 21, we got married young, but i think you need time with your daughter as 2 is so much harder than one! ( congrats by the way and well done!

but you have plenty of years ahead off you both, so my advice is get married and then have more babies.

Enjoy imogen, and enjoy mark enjoys your time as a family XX

**~EmsMum~** · 22-06-2006 18:28

id get married

**EskimoMumma** · 22-06-2006 18:37

It is your decision, not anyone elses. If its to get married for peer pressure, i wouldnt do it. If you are ready to be married, do it. If you are ready for more kids, have the kids

My personal choice is to have the kids first, then the registry, then when the cash is up and kids are older, renew vows and big party and have the children involved

**Ashleigh<3** · 22-06-2006 18:39

Adam and I wanted to get married before we had a baby, but then things happen like an unplanned pregnancy- This changed a few of our plans. Priorities like saving for baby needs, rent, food, etc. seemed more important then saving for a big wedding.

Instead of spending money on a big wedding like we planned, we'd rather have a house first. We both think it's really important to get a house so we're trying hard to get our separate house deposit account brewing!

The thought of a big wedding isn't as special as the though of just being with Adam, we have our whole lives to get married, heck we already feel like we're married!
Sure, we had awhile to wait to have kid's but one step came before the other!