Help please!! Need advice asap

**sueliz** · 15-06-2009 08:14

Hi Mique

Have you considered that maybe your DD has silent reflux? This could be being made worse by the fact that she wants to eat so much because when she is feeding it makes her feel better, but then after she wakes up crying because the reflux hurts so she wants another drink to 'soothe' it? I say silent reflux because I am guessing your daughter isn't bringing up any of her feeds? My best friend's DD2 had this - once it was diagnosed and she could remedy this through some medication and a heavier formula, it was like she had a new baby!!!

**indigoin0z** · 15-06-2009 08:36

Originally Posted by sueliz

Hi Mique

Have you considered that maybe your DD has silent reflux? This could be being made worse by the fact that she wants to eat so much because when she is feeding it makes her feel better, but then after she wakes up crying because the reflux hurts so she wants another drink to 'soothe' it? I say silent reflux because I am guessing your daughter isn't bringing up any of her feeds? My best friend's DD2 had this - once it was diagnosed and she could remedy this through some medication and a heavier formula, it was like she had a new baby!!!

i would like to cowardly agree with this.
i read the thread and wanted to say it, but didnt want to be accused of saying it just because i dont agree with cc.

our ds#3 had/has silent reflux & it is excruciatingly painful for them & us as parents..
[not that i use medication... but thats another story..

]

**Mique** · 15-06-2009 09:34

Hmmm what is the heavier formula?

**sueliz** · 15-06-2009 10:29

Sorry Mique - I actually not sure on that, but I am pretty sure there is a section here for mums of reflux bubs and I have no doubt they will be able to help you! It might not be the case, but what is happening with your DD sounds exactly the same as what happened to my best friends so I thought perhaps it might be worth investigating as obviously if bubs is in pain CC isn't going to work at this point in time for either of you!! (Not saying that against CC here, just meaning that it might be a completely seperate issue if that makes sense).
Here is a website you check out for more info on silent reflux if you need to. http://www.reflux.org.au/characteristics.php

Good luck - I hope that you and your DD get a good night's sleep soon!!!

**JadeyBaby2** · 15-06-2009 10:29

lol - I'm an early nighter though and always have been .......so it's easy for me to say and do :-)
Hmmmmm, have you tried the 13health number? the Child Health Nurses are fabulous and have gotten me through many a tough time. I was given the CC technique I use with DD by them.
Could be silent reflux, however is there a similar problem during the day? Is she restless and seemingly uncomfortable and crying a lot? You could try raising the head of the cot mattress. Get it diagnosed properly of course first, there is a reflux formula you can buy and special bottles also that help if that is what she has.
All else failing I would be trying to get in touch with tresillian sleep clinic that you can go and stay at for a few nights.

**Mique** · 15-06-2009 10:48

See she seems fine most of the time in the day. Although we have some days where she cries alot and seems uncomfortable.

Thanks so much for the information! I think Ill ring the health nurse and maybe book in to see the GP.

Jadey gosh if I went to bed at 7pm Id be fine, not tired at all! lol

**reAllytee** · 15-06-2009 10:56

Originally Posted by JadeyBaby2

ReAllyTee - This is a pro controlled crying thread, sorry but you won't find anyone who thinks the same as you here. That's why we who believe in CC can come in here - to talk to others who also have done / are doing and believe in the benefits of CC. - I feel as parents we have that responsiblity to make sure they are getting enough sleep and learn how to sleep. I make sure my nearly 6yo who started school this year gets his 11hrs a night as recommended in order for him to function at as high a level as possible, and I believe it is only working for me because of my strict bed time routines and CC techniques used. Also, if I am to be the parent I want to be I need my sanity and to be able to function day to day.

I can see what section it is in thanks

It doesnt mean I cant post something that says that I think bubs needs attention especially when screaming for so long.

I am not against CC when used correctly & when not used on a child under the age of 10mths.

I just dont believe in putting unneccessary demands on such a young child, they are only babies once & you cant get that time period back. I also think its safe to say something isnt working especially when they are screaming for hours on end.

I cant see how someone saying " this isnt working right now what else can I do " & be offered other advice at this point causing anyone harm.

**BabelFish** · 18-06-2009 19:24

Can I just ask - when you `leave' them for 90 minutes, are you actually leaving them alone that whole time or are you going in and trying to soothe them at any point through that time?

**sueliz** · 19-06-2009 17:26

Hey Mique

Just wanted to see how you were going? Is your DD sleeping better through the night now?
Hope it's all going well and you are both getting some rest!

**Mique** · 21-06-2009 12:25

Hi
thanks for asking! I rang the maternity nurse and she told me I wasnt giving DD enough milk in the day, so she told me to try giving her more and to see if that improves her sleep....so far not much improvement!