"Are they all to the same father?"

[Sare83]

Does anyone else with more than one kid get asked this??? And do they get as annoyed as I do?? Grrrr ..... lol. Sorry, it drives me nuts though. When people you hardly know say that (in a rude way), for 2 reasons. 1: Does it really matter if someone has kids to more than one person?! It still doesn't make you a bad parent, hell, if my mother didn't have children with her second man, I wouldn't be here! And she is the best mother in the world. And 2: ... They say it as if, if you're single with kids, you must sleep around and get pregnant to anyone and everyone ... WTF? ........ lmao Sorry, I'm not upset or anything, just wondering if anyone else hears this ****?! xxx

[Mister Noodle]

How astoundingly, pointlessly rude some people are!

Mind you, in taking offense, are we not to some degree validating their position?

It's a bit like using 'gay' (or any equivalent term) as an insult. It's hard to take offense at their usage without implying that the implication is actually insulting.

I suppose the trick is to clearly delineate between 'insulted' and 'offended'.

How on earth do you do that, though?

[OceBel]

im married and i have been asked if my husband is the father of my daughter. seriously i think some people must think bad things of people who have children.

[Beany]

Hey I quite regularly deny that my husband is the father of my unborn fiend.

Then again, I regularly deny that I'm the mother, too

[the_queen]

LOL Beany me too.....

Picture it: Big W, 2006. A young blonde child runs amok through the toy aisle screeching "YOU'RE A MEAN MUMMY YOU NEVER BUY ME ANYTHING I'M GETTING OUT OF THIS FAMILY YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BUY ME THINGS I AM THE BOSS HERE". I'm standing to one side, trying to look interested in a Bratz Boyz doll (action figure?). I get quizzical stares. To which I reply "I know, what a horrid child. Glad I'm not her mother"


But seriously folks, back on topic.... I tend to agree with Mister Noodle getting insulted just perpetuates the taboo of blended families. The fact is, the person asking the question is the one who should feel bad, because what they're asking is ridiculous and moot.
And anyway, they're probably just trying to focus attention on someone other than themselves - which says bucketloads more about them than it does about you.

Am I making sense? Probably not LOL this baby attached to my breast may reduce my ability to express myself.

[Mister Noodle]

Surely it's doing the expressing for you

[lovingmumof 2now]

YES YES YES, I feel the pain and annoyance you all do

But only because they all think (thats the mothers at the private school my son goes to) think that my two kids are to the same father and then I have to say um no my son's father has bi-polar and doesnt see him and my daughters father is different person whom I am also seperated from.

But guess what I am sick of their snide looks and their smerks.

When I was a little girl of about 8 years old I did not think my life would be like this. I thought I would marry my prince and live happily ever after, didn't we ALL think this way.

WE ARE NOT MANKY SINGLE MUMS

We are beautiful women who happen to have ended up with dishonest, dishonerable or disinterested men. That is all

I stand up for us and say lets walk through other peoples **** with our heads held high and say my children are with the parent they deserve to have. The best mother in the world.

Glory to us single mums we are the heros of our time.


(Oops sorry, but too much wine tonight) and just found out my ex has a new girlfriend only after 2 mnths. talk about moving fast.

I love you all, you are all my rock. Thankyou

[Tisme]

I get asked this with my new born (the other two may as well be twins) but I turned around and said "well your hubby wasn't free so I used mine instead" OR "at least they'll know who their father is!"

Yes I can be a cow but seriously HOW RUDE and how NONE of their business.

I actually got offended at the opposite the other day. One of my old school friends (we were inseparble until graduation day !!) said to me "so you decided to finally settle down and get a grip on reality?" I mean WTF????????? settled down? that would imply I wasn't right?? Well my response "nah these are all to different guys!" & walked off ..... OOPS!!!!!!!!!!

[Cheeky Little Monkey]

I haven't been in this situation but if I ever was I would simply turn to them and say:

"yes they are! has your husband not told you yet?"

Rude F@#$%!!

Bahahahaha what an excellent come back.
Some people are so rude.

[aardvark]

I get that question all the time.

It really peeves me.

DH and I have been married for over 18 years. Of course my 15y.o., 5y.o. and bub all have the same father!