When is he going to be toilet trained!!

[Jopella2]

Sorry to post this here mods, but there just aren't enough people viewing the specific category - it's mainly Mums looking for the same answers!

My 2.7 month old has been interested in going to the toilet for quite some months now, often asking if he can go, if he can wear undies etc. We've had a lot of success with wees in the toilet (never poo) but he's not conistent.

Some days he doesn't want a bar of it, some days he thinks its great fun. I've never pushed him, only encouraged when HE showed the initiative. We've done the fun undie shopping and i let him pick the Roary ones he wanted.

Monday, I told him he was a big boy and there were no more nappies (in a positive way) - he was happy enough with that and helped me put them all in the bin. After that, he told me he wasn't a big boy and that he was only little and wanted to wear nappies!!

I've seen the 3 day training routine and not really interested in that as I don't think I could commit to the attention it needs, particularly with another baby.

He's just so hot and cold I don't know what I should or shouldn't be doing anymore!

Help!

[Raising Leprechauns]

I have the same problem with my DS.... He wont wear undies cause "they make me wet Mummy..." Would love some advice!

[Alisonp]

How about starting a reward chart? DD was great with pees (trained at 2y0mo) but getting the poos in the toilet took longer and more thought (I think about 3mo from memory, complicated by some gastro and then constipation because she was holding on).

Pick a short term reward...like going somewhere like the beach or a new DVD etc and keep reminding him that poos on the toilet gets a tick on the chart (we used an old calender). When he has a success make a huge deal about ticking the chart. Go on and on about how great it will be when he gets the reward.

I also talked to DD a lot about how much I enjoy going to the toilet LOL ...(you know, making funny sounds and saying "aahh that's better!! "). I know this sounds ridiculous but I really thinked it helped to make the toilet sound like a good place "to go".

If he has an accident don't make a big deal about it...stay as low key as possible. Oh and go for the undies and just deal with the accidents. We never used pull ups with DD and I think that made things quicker and less confusing for her.

[SalTheGal]

All I can say is hang in there girls!!!!

My DS was exactly the same a few months ago (he was 2.5yrs)- one day he'd want to wear his 'big boy jocks', the next he'd have no bar of them....He would have an accident pretty much every time he wore them, even though he could go to the potty if he really wanted to- I thought we would never get there either.

I just never pushed the issue- he knew he had the jocks and the potty was always out....one day he asked to be in his jocks- and I thought, OK here we go again, another day of accidents and maybe one or two wees in the potty if we are lucky....

Well do you know- that day he wore his jocks and had no accidents, made it to the potty everytime, and we HAVE NOT LOOKED BACK SINCE!!!!

I honestly couldn't get over how quickly he just 'got it'- in the first week we had maybe one or two accidents, but he hasn't had an accident since, and within the space of 1mnth was completely toilet trained day and night.....Its been around two months now and I can count on one hand the amount of accidents he has had- and none at all for atleast the last month.

So many people said to me "he will know when he is ready" and after going through it- I sooooo agree, when he was really ready it just came sooo easily, yet before hand I think if I had of pushed him it would have turned into a really negative experience.

So all I can say is make it all available to them, talk about their 'big boy jocks' and the potty and encourage them when they do it- but let them take it at their own pace...cause when they are ready- they are just ready!

Oh I should add that we tried the reward chart- but found that unless the reward was instant (ie a sticker or lolly) it didn't really work. So we did stickers for DS for wee and I chopped up some jelly babies into little pieces for a lolly treat for poo....once the jar was empty he no longer gets a treat for poo....and thats fine now!

[Jopella2]

thanks Ladies

I find that immediate rewards work best on my son too. He doesn't quite grasp the chart concept yet.

I give him a sticker for a wee and have promised a chocolate (bud) for a poo.

I shall soldier on! I think there is a big difference between being interested and being ready!

SaltheGal, did you just keep him in a nappy unless he wanted to wear undies? Did you ask him each day (or each nappy change) what he wanted to do and went with that?

[joshnchloesmummy]

Hi there

I think you just need to be patient, i had been trying to train my DS since he was 2 on and off without much success, all of a sudden just on his 3rd bday it just clicked, he started telling me he had to do wees/poos and he is now totally day trained with no accidents at all. My DS is particularly stubborn and was only going to do it when he was good and ready.

[cja]

Hi,

Just wanted to recommend the 3 day TT again. It was great for us because it was done in under 3 days. Yes it required alot of attention during the first 2 days....but then it was done!! I also have a 14mth old, so was glad to get TT my older child done as quick as possible!!

[NonnyMouse]

I have read that boys tend to TT a lot later than girls... something about the "urge" being less noticeable for boys?

I TT'd DD by simply running out of nappies and staying home for a long weekend when she was 2.

I'm sure you're doing all the right things, maybe he just needs to go back to nappies full time and try again in a couple of months.

[gi_jo]

For wees a sticker chart worked for us plus a smartie . You have to be really strict though and only give a reward when they do a wee and make a big fuss.

For no. 2s I bought heaps of cheap toys, little matchbox cars, kinder surprise, mini tonka trucks, little colouring books etc, wrapped them up and called them poo presents. We made a big fuss and he got to choose a present from the bag when he did a no. 2 on the loo. We still have them as he sometimes asks for them.

By the way, I didn't get serious about t/t until he was 2 yrs 10 months and I have a baby too.

Hang in there.

[Hollywood]

Hi,

Just wanted to recommend the 3 day TT again. It was great for us because it was done in under 3 days. Yes it required alot of attention during the first 2 days....but then it was done!! I also have a 14mth old, so was glad to get TT my older child done as quick as possible!!

I was lucky and it 'clicked' for DS in 4 hours (a bit longer for poos though, had a couple of accidents out and about, but at home he got it within 3 days ).