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**chrissy3382** · 20-05-2009 11:18

im due to have #2 in about 10 weeks and not sure how #1 will be with it and staying home with daddy

**emmat** · 20-05-2009 11:36

hi number one will be fine it will only be for a short time. Have you thought about getting granny and grandad to look after number one so that you can have your partners support.

**Hooves** · 20-05-2009 13:28

It is normal to have concerns about how your 1st will feel, when you have your 2nd.

I was more worried about my 2nd with my 3rd, as he was a lot younger then my 1st was.

I found that as long as you let them know, in language they will understand they are generally pretty good. It is usually a few weeks later, when they start to realise that bub is here for good, that they start to show signs of problems.

Have you thought about having someone come to your home and baby sit, your little one, so that your partner can be with you for the birth? ( I am reading it that you are doing this without him, so he can look after your other child)

If I am reading it wrong, and you are just worrying about after the birth, and you staying in hospital while your partner is with your other child at home. I am sure they will be fine.

Mine have always coped fine.

**TillyG** · 20-05-2009 13:53

It's totally natural to be worried about the impact of a new baby on any existing children - I know that my DD (5y7m) has become a bit more clingy just recently as my due date draws ever closer.

My main anxieties about the birth are to do with DD and what we're going to do with her - I've got a few plans in place, depending on when it happens, and I know she'll be fine and is really looking forward to sleeping over at a friend's house if need be.

Ideally I'd have loved to have had my parents come here to look after her but they're 12000 miles away so not really a go-er LOL. They're coming out here in a month or so's time, though, when they'll be a lot more help to me really

**JackzMumma** · 20-05-2009 19:27

When I had DS2, DS1 was fine with my parents. And in the following 3 days he loved it, as he's more of a daddy's boy anyway, so spending more one on one time with him was probably "the best!!"

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I'm more worried about when bubs 3 arrives, as DS2 is more of a mummy's boy. I was holding a neighbours little 8mth old girl a few weeks ago and DS2 was (in his own little way) telling her to get off!

Definately a bit of jealousy shining through there. I wonder how he'll be in 12 weeks time????

**chrissy3382** · 21-05-2009 09:56

na my dh is comeing with me his nan is going to look after dd for us i hope dd is good for nan and pop will have to wait and see thanks for the advise

**chrissy3382** · 21-05-2009 09:57

Originally Posted by Hooves

It is normal to have concerns about how your 1st will feel, when you have your 2nd.

I was more worried about my 2nd with my 3rd, as he was a lot younger then my 1st was.

I found that as long as you let them know, in language they will understand they are generally pretty good. It is usually a few weeks later, when they start to realise that bub is here for good, that they start to show signs of problems.

Have you thought about having someone come to your home and baby sit, your little one, so that your partner can be with you for the birth? ( I am reading it that you are doing this without him, so he can look after your other child)

If I am reading it wrong, and you are just worrying about after the birth, and you staying in hospital while your partner is with your other child at home. I am sure they will be fine.

Mine have always coped fine.

na dh is come with me dd is staying with dh nan and pop