Anyone had experience with a really big age gap?
My dad remarried, and had babies when I was 14 and 16, I loved it, and I think my step-mum liked it too, as I was old enough to watch the baby while she had a shower, and I babysat for them at night a few times too (even had them for 2 weeks, when they were older and my parents went overseas). But my relationship with my brothers is one of an 'aunty' more than a sister.
My husband was a menopause baby, and his brothers and sisters are 12, 14 and 16 years older than him, he said he grew up feeling more like an only child, but he is very close to his brothers now that they are adults.
Our children (blended family) are 8, 10, 11 and 12.
The 12 year old, who stays with us every second weekend, is def a difficult teenager already. I wonder if it's selfish of me to want a baby, and if we won't be as available to them when they are going through their teenage years, which are hard enough.
But I can't stop wanting a baby either!