I have started an arrangement with a girlfriend where she looks after my 2 for a day one week and I look after her 2 for a day the 2nd week. I really want it to work out as it gives me a day free every 2nd week to run errands, do something for myself etc.
Her 3 year old is fine, she plays nicely with my 2. It is her 8 month old son I am having issues with. She says he has an afternoon sleep at about 1pm after lunch for 2-3 hours. She said he often stirs after an hr and she goes in, puts his dummy back in and pats him back to sleep.
For me, he has been sleeping 40min - 1 hr and then I cannot get him back to sleep. He screams non stop until I get him out of bed. I have even tried giving him some formula at this time in his bottle, have tried patting etc.
Once up, he is in a good mood for about 2 hours but then becomes very grumpy until we handover at 6pm and screams if I put him down.
This friend is very particular and doesn't want him crying, I have spoken to her about him not settling and she seemed very surprised and didn't have any suggestions, other than 'he might just know its not his mum'.
It is tiring me out and I'm starting to dread my week on... i have looked after him 3 times already and every one has been the same, including yesterday. it means i can spend hardly any time with the other kids and at the time i am trying to cook dinner etc he is screaming if i put him down (I have tried putting him in the highchair with food, doesnt work)
does anyone have any advice? Do you think he will get used to me as time goes on, or is he taking advantage of the fact that I don't want to let him cry?
Arrgh feel so clueless!!!