He was ready, I wasn't. I have failed

**lavenderpegasus** · 21-04-2009 12:00

I gave up today on TTing.

I'll probably regret it but when you find yourself in tears in the middle of woolworths it just isn't worth the stress.

lp

**nothanksbye** · 21-04-2009 12:48

I think you are being a little hard on yourself.

TT is something that takes time and soo much patience. You dont fail by missing a few times.
Both my children had accidents and most of them were my fault! We did well then i would quit, go back try again. Its pretty normal. They were both toilet trained in time for preschool and really thats all that matters.

Give yourself a break babe. You are pregnant and you were shopping NOT the most calm situation in the world!

You would not call your son a failure if he missed the toilet or wet the bed so dont do it to you either!

**Karen B** · 21-04-2009 23:38

Actually if you were in tears in WWorths (and haven't we all been there?) maybe he wasn't entirely ready so don't beat yourself up.
There aren't many adults not toilet trained so don't lose faith.
That said - any tips on on a 3.5 year old missy who won't poo on toilet... "ah, no fanks"... would be more than welcome.
KB

**mum1986** · 21-04-2009 23:45

itnot a failure, you will do it one day. and in the meantime there is no shame in saying we aren't ready we'll try again another time. i say just give yourself a pat on the back for trying at all, then give yourself and him some time.

**lavenderpegasus** · 22-04-2009 12:47

after my complete meltdown yesterday, Spencer woke up not happy about the nappy at all and we are persisting with the toilet taining.

We have had to go back to the early das of toilet training, before the hospital trip he was trained through the nights but last night he wet twice

So fingerscrossed things work out!

Ta for all your support ladies.

**Just Add Water** · 22-04-2009 13:15

It took us over 6 months to finally get there... go with what works for you and Spencer... and just keep in mind, there are plenty of 10 year olds who still have an accident here and there (and some older). It's not worth stressing about. Good luck

**reAllytee** · 22-04-2009 15:39

Oh hun dont be so hard on yourself you are doing great

Heck it took till just before Christmas (3mths off turning 4yrs !!! ) to get Boof to finally TT !

Go with what works & slow is fine ! Some kids arent TT overnite like others because it all works on them being truly ready & not before !

**DonBon** · 22-04-2009 18:39

My DS (my #5) is 4yrs1mth and just starting being TA/TT.
Don't be hard on yourself, they all do it at their own pace

**allie2904** · 24-04-2009 12:04

hey, the woman next to you at woolworths may have exactly the same problem! My older two were fine but my youngest daughter is nearly four and we have been tt for nearly 2 years! It has driven me mental! Wees are fine but she just won;t get the poos idea. Just take one day at a time - readin these posts has made me feel so much better that i am not the only mum in Australia with this problem!