Last edited by k&Hmum; 24-06-2010 at 19:13.
hi k&hmum, You are right, it is still only early days, give everything time. It is a shame there is no family near to him, I feel that having extended family around would be a great help for him and also for the little daughter. Is there some way for holidays to be spent together as a family?? I would try to be postive about the future, noone knows what is around the corner, I'm sure when the time is right someone will appear. Does he have mates around him, that could help too, but family is often the best. We women find talking about these things helpful, but I'm not so sure that men need to talk, men seem to need to chase a football or go fishing, but what ever he finds to ease the lonliness, will be a good thing. handle with care, Marie.
Marie ~ mum to four adults,
DS 1 -33, DD 1 & 2 - 31, DS2 -28grandma to 4 grandsons and one granddaughter
GS 12 yrs, GS - 7 yrs, GS - 5 yrs, GS -1.5 yr and GD - 1yr.
I don't think you ever really move on, you just learn to live with it. It is very early on, don't rush him. Grief is different for everyone. It is possible for him to find happiness again, but only if he wants to.
He who laughs last probably didn't get the joke.
what chelle said.
it's not even been 12mths, it's likely that he's still dealing with thedeep grief of the situation, probably not even thinking of moving on yet. but it's different for everyone.
In my experience after 2 years i now look forward to having a partner again in the future, and loving them for who they are. they will never be lee though. I still would like to share my life with someone, in a romantic/ family way.
Somedays i think maybe it won't happen again for me, and i am ok with that. I am satisfied because i know i had a great love with someone and a happy family experience and i am grateful for what we had.
i'm sure your brother will be happy again in life, even while grieving his wife. he doesn't need a new partner to be happy, but maybe one day he will also want to share his life with someone again, or meet someone new who he feels attracted to and gets along with. they won't be competing with his wife, they will just be being themselves, and he will be him at a different stage of his life.
for now, maybe you are right it is not possible right now for your brother to have a new partner and that sort of happiness, but that's ok because right now he is grieving his wife and honouring her memory.
first daughter-17/10/96 second daughter-25/4/03 third daughter-19/6/05