personal attacks on freebirthers guised as discussion of reasonable birth choices

[demeter]

Alright my fellow brethren, I require vent space and cuddles from the other insane birthers like moi

I am tired of being told by people who not only don't freebirth, but don't like freebirth for whatever personal reasons they might be, why it is that I chose it and why it is that I like it.

EXCUUUUUUUUSE YOU! I will be the judge of why I chose what I chose and what it means to my family and I. NOT anyone else!

I have my reasons, but I do not have to give them to anyone else, they're mine.

I'm not an idiot, I think before making choices, especially when the welfare of my child is involved. To assume otherwise is to be a presumptuous, rude, and seriously WRONG.

In the past 24 hours it has been suggested to me that I chose to freebirth because I am misinformed and uneducated and implied that I did it because other people did and I wanted them to like me And that my birth was unnaturally long and this was probably because I lead a lifestyle that is "sedentary" (read: my birth would not have taken long if I wasn't lazy).

This boggles my mind! My home birth with no medical presence, no interventions, which unfolded in it's own time, respected by those present, was unnatural because it took as long as it needed to take????

Does that mean the natural thing would have been to go to hospital and get my baby needlessly caesareaned out?

Obviously whatever happened at my freebirth was a-ok coz the closest thing either DD or I had to a negative outcome was my vagina grazed during 2nd stage.

*jumps off soapbox*
takes

[Nowhere]

HUGS im not a home birther or free birther, but wanted to send hugs anyway, ( hopeyou dont mind) I cant fathem how the heck anny moron can in any way shape or form think in any way there could be anything un natural about the birth, They couldnt come up with anything so atacked the time what idiots

You and the other free and home birthing mums on here seem to be more clued up on birth than most becuase you reserch it all your selfs rather then listening an OB that thinks birth should go as they read in a text book

[demeter]

HUGS im not a home birther or free birther, but wanted to send hugs anyway, ( hopeyou dont mind)

I don't mind! Thanks!

[Freya]

I know what you mean...

And I also get the ' You're 18 how could it have possibly been an informed decision to freebirth'.

It was our choice and no ones business but ours.

[Ana Gram]

Unnaturally long because you are lazy?? Man that made me do a squinty face. I must have been super lazy since mine took 31 hours in hospital.

[gizmoduckus]

I am so sorry that some people don't know when to keep their rude comments to themelves.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

That sucks Demeter.

ALL birth choices are reasonable, viable choices.

I must be lazy too.
Though I think any woman who has endured a long labour would know that going through that is FAR from lazy. It takes a lot of effort and energy, actually.

[LoveMyBoys]

Sounds like theyre jealous to me!! or just plain ignorant!!

[Luna Lovegood]

Hmmm



I hate people who judge others for things that dont affect their own lives in anyway. People should really mind their own business...




OP- very well written post, was most amused.

[MordecaiAliVanAllenO'Shea]

I didnt know you freebirthed Harriet demeter! We were in the same "due in" thread - Feb 2008, and I never knew. It's probably why you werent as much in the chat towards the end, while we were all discussing hospitals etc, you lucky thing were preparing for your little girl at home.

Sorry, completely off topic (And how fast did our bubs grow up hey!?)