does anyone dread the nighttimes with their bub?

[trickylee]

Hi

I know its a strange question but does anyone else have a bit of a phobia about sleep deprivation and dread there baby waking up crying at night....?

I get a little anxious as Im scared of her being unsettled. Which is very silly I know, but I just wondered if anone else had the same anxiety/fear?
x

[MothersMilk]

Sometimes when i can tell bub isn't going to go to sleep easily i dread the battle ahead iykwim.

It doesn't really bother me too much when she wakes at night as it doesn't happen very often and if it does i just give her some boob and she falls straight back to sleep.

I have had some trouble nights where she just won't settle and i have to tell myself 'no baby stays awake forever' and ;no baby cries forever'. If it has taken me hours to get her to sleep and i'm exhausted when she finally settles i will think please stay asleep.

[Benji]

My boy was an awful sleeper, when he [rarely] did sleep on his own, without being held upright by me I couldn't sleep because I knew it wouldn't be long until he woke.

I can NOT sleep during the day, I just physically can't no matter how tired I am so nights were a nightmare for me!

[leishacaz]

I know exactly what you mean, I used to feel exactly the same with both of my girls. I don't cope well with lack of sleep so I would always get a bit anxious as night time was approaching!

Just keep it mind it won't be like that forever, that was something that kept me going. And just try and catch up on sleep as much as you can through the day.... thats the beauty of your first child, being able to sleep while they are. Once your 2nd child comes along you can't do that anymore

Take care of yourself and good luck with it all, and remember you're definitely not alone

[TraceyM]

Absolutely! I used to dread the sun going down in those first six weeks for both DD & DS.

I think for me everything seems better when the sun is shining. During the night you're usually up alone and it's so quiet that the crying seems worse.

I thought it was just me ...

[Gardenia2]

Yes I used to feel this way and my husband still does. I found what helped was letting go of the expectation of getting 8 hours sleep a night. I just let it go and realised she needs me and it is just a phase and you do the best you can in the day.

But hubby still gets anxious and cant accept it

Louise

[mybabysmum]

As other people have said - I thought it was just me. Fortunately my DD has turned out to be a great sleeper now that she is 15 months, but the first 8 months or so were soooo hard. I used to be laying there thinking I could hear her fuss, but it was just my sleep-deprived mind playing tricks on me. 2 or 3am is the loneliest time on earth - it is quiet (except for the crying baby) and everyone in the whole world is sound asleep (except for the crying baby). I can remember thinking that I was all alone in the middle of the night and I used to dread night times. I know everyone says it, but it is true - it gets better. In the meantime try to remember that you're not alone.

[Pax]

when i was younger with my first babies i found it harder. i think when we are in our early 20's we need more solid sleep. i am very tired now with this bub but not as bad as i was with my first ones. i think as PP said, acceptance is a big step.

just expect to be awake and stop thinking you should be getting sleep LOL.. amazing mind over matter works.

[reAllytee]

Yep it can be like that !

My first didnt sleep much for the first 6mths & then mr second obviously at 17mths is making sure he breaks a record

It can at times be frustrating, depressing, upsetting etc but you do in a roundabout way get used to it ... Dont get me wrong you have days where you completely lose the plot but you do get used to minimal sleep !

Not all babies are bad sleeps & not all bad sleepers continue being so !

I cant wait until they hit the teenage years & sleep in till lunchtime

[Lil07]

Every night now I lay in bed, when I do finally get my daughter down, wondering how soon it will be that she'll start crying.

Night time really sucks at the moment for us and because she's so tired, day times are starting to become an all day tantrum.

I hate to say it but I'm wishing her baby years away in anticipation of the 'change' in sleeping habits.

Not cool at all