As children my DH and I were told NO that was it. No questions, no answering back it was plainly NO.
The consequences were none it was just no, if however I were to ever question my parents on a matter that was said NO to I was sent to my room.
Me on the other hand I say NO to Eliza and she tries again and again and again.
My DH and I are really coming to a heads on this.
He tried to hold my hand last night, and she lost it. my mummy etc. I said to him please let go, and explained to her it was OK I still loved her, but I also love daddy. He just saw it as her winning and me backing down to her.
She back chats a lot.
She refuses to share anything and it's coming to a point where I am going to have to stop taking her places as it's near impossible and creates very un-comfortable situations for other mums. And anyone else in ear shot of her wailing.
I explain she is making me unhappy and she answers back whilst crying "No I am making you happy"
She is refusing to sleep in her bed and sleeps in ours DH is on the sofa and of course he is not happy understandably.
DH is on one presently telling me how the nice approach is back-firing on us and we must bet stern. I do shout I do raise my voice I yell, I take her to her room for 2 mins time out. I explain everything to her and then get her to tell me why I told her off so she understands.
Over all she is good but of late her defiance is becoming an issue at home and outside.
And it's starting to interfere with myself and DH