Feeling down-37weeks

**MflUicM** · 30-12-2008 10:08

Hi all,

I am 37 weeks pregnant and need to have a little vent. In the last few days I have become extremely mopey and depressed and I am not sure why?? My thoughts are constantly about labour and birth and I feel it may be becoming a little over-whelming for me. I just feel so tired and un-motivated it's making me worried I won't perform like I will need too!

I just feel fat and boring and miserable to be around.
I have expressed these feelings with my mum and dp and both assure me it is normal to be feeling this way as birth looms closer and closer.

I was just wondering how other's have made it through the last few weeks being able to embrace their pregnancy and be positive about it. I'ts almost like I just want pregnancy to be over and have bub here, but at the same time I am almost mentally running away from the idea. I have been positive my whole pregnancy but now..eeek! What happened?!! LOL

TIA

**2girls&1boy** · 30-12-2008 13:33

Firstly these are for you

I remember when I was pregnant with my first feeling exactly the same way at about the same time. 37 weeks is a really awkward time because you can almost see the finish line but not quite.

All I can say that your feelings are shared by loads of pregnant, I was not overly positive towards the end of any of pregnancies as I was so uncomfortable and just "over it". Having said that though the moment labour started I was really really excited and all my concerns and worries disappeared as my body took over and did what it was designed to do.

All I can recommend is try and spend your time relaxing, reading books(not pregnancy ones) doing little things for yourself. Get a pedicure or manicure.

I hope you feel better and I will keep an eye out for your birth announcement over the coming weeks.

**Cordelia** · 30-12-2008 13:43

Ohhh snap - i'm 38 weeks tomorrow and have been feelign like this the last week or so. I am starting to get excited again now tho.

**SecondTimeRound** · 30-12-2008 14:12

At about 37wks with DS I went to my hair salon and had the works done! Really pepped me up and I felt reasonably attractive again

Also good for all those post-birth hospital pics that get emailed around. At least your hair and face will look nice

Maybe some light exercise, or even something more intense but low impact will get your blood moving and endorphins pumping to make you feel better.

Take this time to enjoy getting things just right for your little bub, and truly pamper yourself as much as possible becos you may not do it again for awhile!

**MflUicM** · 30-12-2008 16:12

Thanks so much ladies for your support and advice

I actually got given a facial + haircut, style gift voucher for my bday not long ago, was going to wait to use it until after the birth but I think I need it now more so!

Thanks so much again! You helped lift my spirits..and goodluck to those of you with little ones on the way

**branjie** · 30-12-2008 16:23

Sometimes midwives say going through labour is like the effort of doing a marathon, so when I was at your stage with my first one I was really freaked out, seeing as I couldn't get myself to go for a walk let alone anything more strenuous. I thought, fancy having to go through labour, in my condition. Anyway, once the labour starts, the adrenalin kicks in and you really do manage. Knowing that you are going to see your precious baby's face soon is a good motivation. How you are feeling is absolutely understandable. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling that way. Definitely use the voucher now, it will be harder to get the chance once your baby is born. I hope you feel a bit better after some of pampering

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AM · 30-12-2008 16:51

I'm right there with you. I'm SO uncomfortable, i really wish i was a few weeks further along.

I'm not worried about the birth, really excited about that part actually, but i just want this to all hurry up.

Funny, I was never like this with my first two pregnancies...

I've been pretty emotional lately though, this morning DP took the kids out shopping and I expected him home a lot sooner than he was, and I could not get him on his mobile, and I was having a full on hysterical panic attack about it, I even rang the local hospital!

Pregnancy hormones, huh?

**kady1978** · 30-12-2008 17:16

It is normal. Not only do you have to worry about the upcoming birth, but also the major changes that are going to happen in your life! It really hits home as you get closer to the 40 week mark.

For me, I finished work at 36 weeks and just sat around moping, and worrying. My Mum came the next week and helped me out a lot, and kept me positive. DD was born at 39 weeks, so I didn't have to sit around long.

I think the key is to keep yourself busy is possible, and accept the support of people around you. As a lot of them (particularly our mothers!) have been through it before.

And if you need to talk, we are always on here!

**BellyFruit** · 02-01-2009 20:05

oohhhh can I jump in here and just say I'm 37 +1 today and am seriously over things too... I'm so mad at myself that I feel this way as I've been "glowing" for weeks and loving being this pg etc etc... I really feel down and negative at the moment, and all like "why wont i JUST GO INTO FRIGGIN LABOUR ALREADY????"

With 20 days to go (then what, maybe a further 10 days after that??) I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel...

I asked my ob for a S & S today, she didnt want to do one until next week at the earliest... what am I thinking? I dont want the "cascade of intervention" and all that... am I being too selfish wanting the S & S Monday week at 38 + 4??? Is it a bad idea? My ob said she'd be happy to do it then if I wanted... she said she'd be happy to induce me then if I wanted too (which I dont)... just wanted to see if I could kickstart things gently...

oh man, I hate feeling like this... DH is all like, it will be over soon, but I WANT MY BODY BACK! God am I terrible for not really enjoying the baby kicking me in the guts non-stop through the night? Was fun for months, not any more... oh I feel awful feeling like that...

MflUicM hun I'm with you right now.... sniff - didnt mean to crash your thread, just wanted you to know you're not alone...

TMD x

**2girls&1boy** · 03-01-2009 13:36

Originally Posted by twinmumdee

am I being too selfish wanting the S & S Monday week at 38 + 4??? Is it a bad idea? My ob said she'd be happy to do it then if I wanted... she said she'd be happy to induce me then if I wanted too (which I dont)... just wanted to see if I could kickstart things gently...

oh man, I hate feeling like this... DH is all like, it will be over soon, but I WANT MY BODY BACK! God am I terrible for not really enjoying the baby kicking me in the guts non-stop through the night? Was fun for months, not any more... oh I feel awful feeling like that...

You poor thing

I so remember being over it at that stage. All I can say is that I wouldn't try the s & s until I had hit my due date. Honestly once it is over you will be thinking it wasn't that bad to go for 40weeks.

I reckon we should not have due dates. The OB should say we are due in the month of ....... whatever. THen we wouldn't have such a strong feeling of expectation...