Sex...

[SJ1312]

I'm just not that into it at the moment and i can tell its starting to drive DH a wee bit crazy

I'm mostly just tired and cant be bothered... and the thought of going through the motions feels like a chore most of the time....
And I know im pregnant, but I feel quite big and unattractive which doesnt help either.

Oh, and romance doesnt work for me... I always got turned on more by fun... a night in the hot tub listening to the footy with a beer, or a night out watching a band with a few beers and a lot of laughs.
(Both are no go's whilst pregnant!)

At the moment, hubby cleaning the oven and vacumming the house is a big turn on... but when i think of getting jiggy a feel like bed time would be better spent sleeping....

Is this normal? I've had so many friends say they go off like bunnies when pregnant & cant get enough.... I want to be one of those girls!!!

[Jinglebells]

your totally normal, not everyones sex drive goes up when preg, most actually loose their sex drive, i'm one of them

[BecNBub]

ur not alone, i give in to my DP every few days just to make him happy.

(he gets very annoying/continually trying for it if he doesnt get it)

it doesnt hurt me or anything, i just cant really be bothered. When i get into bed all i want to do is get a decent sleep... until i have to get up for my 4 hrly wee stop! lol

if ive really not been in the mood, ive always "made him happy" and he tends to go off to sleep afterwards....

[Mumtotwokids]

With my first dh was very keen (bigger boobies), at the start to mid way, but I was very much not interested. He lost interest when I got bigger and was scared he'd hit the baby (like most men ego bigger than member). With the second I was a sex bunny, if we didn't do it I did it myself - every day. (sorry if TMI)

Anyhoo, every pregnancy is different and each stage is different, you DH will adjust, just like when the baby arrives.

[MummySharna]

Your not alone!!! I am sooo over sex or anything sexual atm! Cept for cuddles! I need a good cuddle every now and then. But kisses, sex, fondling . . . so not wanted! I am only 22 weeks preg and i remember this time with my last pregnancy my partner couldnt keep me off of him but this time round sooooo not wanted LOL He gets upset and i just tell him to get over it, i did give into him twice and it just hurt so i told him No more, not until bubs is here, he said thats fine and wouldnt want to hurt either of us but it doesnt stop him from askin for it.

[Herchy]

I am soooo not into pregnancy sex. Hubby doesn't find it that appealing either, and I love telling him when he's really keen, that he better be careful to not poke my baby in the eye. Def a huge turnoff. lol

[SJ1312]

Well atleast I'm not alone, and its normal.

If any of you come across a tip for getting in teh mood let me know... I'd much prefer to want to get right into it that just give in... although admittedly just giving in and giving him some feels like the only option.
I might even have to fake a O as well to keep him pleased! (He did afterall clean the oven for me today!)

[NonnyMouse]

I've been through low libido days (even months when married *sigh*) and what helps is just getting a head start, with or without partner present. I usually find once I get "warmed up" things are great.

I also find I get randy in the heat... and if DP isn't ready or willing, then I'll just take myself off somewhere quiet and come back 10 mins later with a more relaxed demeanour.

Failing that, I would NEVER recommend "giving in to him" just to keep him happy.... men are perfectly capable of pleasuring themselves when the need arises and should be able to respect that you simply aren't feeling sexual because you're growing a baby and your hormones are directed towards mothering, nor procreating. Any man who won't give you this respect and insists on sex anyway, or makes you feel obligated to perform, should be read the riot act and made to sleep in the garage until he learns his lesson.

[FertileMertile]

I was a sex bunny while preg with DS. I guess thats why he has dimples

With this preg I am SO not interested. Like you, I just cant be bothered and it feels like a chore. However like every chore, you just do it anyway.

[GoldLeader]

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