DNA testing at birth - your thoughts?

**LilShenanigans** · 12-11-2008 21:12

I totally agree with it! Or at the very least, make testing more available price wise... or even some box to tick on your birth plan lol

It'd save a lot of blokes troubles later, they will at least have a choice. But also personally speaking, it'll help a lot of single mothers who get messed around by their ex's

**Freya** · 12-11-2008 21:14

Plus it might help those women who aren't 100 percent more likely to do the testing if it is free.

**missie_mack** · 12-11-2008 21:31

Nope I don't support it. I don't believe these tests should be routine. The reality of having to pay for DNA testing if the child is proven to be theirs is often a deterrant for men who are only having the testing done as a way of offending/embarrassing the mother.

And while DNA is easily obtained, officially obtaining it in a controlled environment means it can remain on record for an infinite period and eventually become a matter for public record

**xkwzit** · 12-11-2008 21:49

I'd be offended if someone routinely offered to DNA test my baby. Her father and I know for certain that we are her parents.

If ppl are not certain, or have an intractable FOB who refuses to acknowledge paternity, they can request the test. Not sure that it should be free though.

I often wonder about DNA that is kept on file, like when a lot of ppl in a community go voluntarily to provide samples for a crime so that they can be ruled out as suspects. What happens if they later commit a crime, are the sample still in the database? What if it is their sibling or child that commits the crime? If the DNA record is still there, even if it isn't a perfect match, the police could narrow down the investigation to that family. Just seems so wrong...

Cheers

**Minke** · 12-11-2008 22:16

I don't really see the point in compulsory DNA testing at birth, but what about compulsory DNA testing for child support claims? That way you are guaranteed that the correct person is paying child support. I realise there would be issues such as in divorce cases where the father has raised the child as his own - i guess he could sign a waiver to either have the test, or ignore the results and keep parental rights, or if it was determined the child was not his then he would no longer have to pay child support, but he would loose all custodial rights. As someone in another thread said when they asked their other half they would still want to continue the relationship with the child that they has raised as their own and he said yes... Once the waiver was signed though, that would be it - no deciding 5 years down the track that they no longer wanted parental rights.

**Beany** · 12-11-2008 22:42

No way in hell would I submit to a test that is basically calling me a sl*t.

How dare anyone outside of my relationship cast aspirations upon it? How dare they assume that all women are out to trap unwitting men? I know the father of my baby. I knew right from day dot. I never deceived anyone. The father of my baby knew that he was the father from day dot. If either of us DIDN'T know then we should have the testing available to us. But under no circumstances should it be a routine test.

**BOSS302WMOM** · 12-11-2008 22:57

I think its a good idea the fathers deserve to know. If my hubby asked I'd be offended but I was being chased by a few guys when both my kids were conceived so if he asked well its his right to know

**sockstealingpoltergeist** · 12-11-2008 23:02

Originally Posted by Angike

I think it's a huge invasion of privacy.

I wouldn't have had a problem with it myself as I'd only had one sexual partner in 5 yrs, yeah pretty sure DS is his lol but I think it would be a waste of money and time and resources. If someone is suspicious, by all means go for it, but for others the birth of a baby is a beautiful time full of love, not suspicion.

I find it offensive and there is more, much much more to parenting then DNA.
That is why many women from the thread about the mixed up babies wouldn't be able to just shaft the baby that wasn't biologicaly theres to the side once they found out. They would still love and care for and want to see the baby, even if it wasn't tied to them through DNA.

Why is it that men care so little about this bond that it has to be tied to DNA.

I know my husband loves my daughter and is a great father to her, this is despite the fact that he isn't her bio dad. He has told me he will allways look after both his children and would be embarressed to do anything less.

**Benji** · 12-11-2008 23:14

Originally Posted by sockstealingpoltergeist

I find it offensive and there is more, much much more to parenting then DNA.
That is why many women from the thread about the mixed up babies wouldn't be able to just shaft the baby that wasn't biologicaly theres to the side once they found out. They would still love and care for and want to see the baby, even if it wasn't tied to them through DNA.

Why is it that men care so little about this bond that it has to be tied to DNA.

I know my husband loves my daughter and is a great father to her, this is despite the fact that he isn't her bio dad. He has told me he will allways look after both his children and would be embarressed to do anything less.

Ohhh good point. I forgot about that thread!

No way man, I'm still waiting for my maternity test results, if he's not mine, I want to be reimbursed for the thousands of dollars I have spent on bikkies and nanas!!!! That's just selfish of him!!!!

**RockabillyLove** · 13-11-2008 06:38

I've only ever had 'censored' {*giggle*} with one person, ever, and he just so happens to be the father of my children.

If he wanted it done, I'd let it be done.
After all, I have nothing to hide.

And what's one more needle amoung all the others she'll have in her life to make her healthy and happy?
Except this one won't be making HER happy, as such...ah, I have no idea what I'm blabbering on about!