My 4mth old just doesnt not seem to wind down.
He only sleeps 30-50minutes of a day, takes about 2-3hours to get to finally stay asleep of a night..then sleeps 3-4hr stretches ie wakes 2-3x overnight but bf then goes straight back to bed9/10x.
The nighttime is not a problem for me as I know he will go back to sleep calmly most of the time. Its the LONG days. He wont BF to sleep during the day for some reason...gets restless and pulls off at the end of feeds/fusses etc.. (weirdly doesnot do this overnight).
As soon as I see tired signs I pick him up, take him to his room which is dimmer and try to get him to slow down. But he wriggles and fights and protests... The only way I can get him to sleep is by vigourous rocking or bouncing on the fitball or by walking round and round the house. It takes on average 15-20minutes every sleep..by evening its takes anything from 2-3 hours of this (after a bath and massage)
I know hes overtired by evenings which is half his problem, so I try not to let him be awake longer then 60-90minutes....or if hes only slept 20minutes try to resettle him..
I feel like all I do is try to get him to sleep.
Somedays I get teary everytime I see him get tired as I'm anxious about the "battle" ahead. By the end of the day Im ehausted. Often there is little or no playtime as I put him to sleep..he wakes20mins later...so I put him to sleep(taking15-20min) he wakes 10-15minlater.....I put him to sleep he sleeps 30 minutes...
He wont sleep in bed with me (I would have loved to cosleep) He just gets restless and wants the boob, but because hes not hungry or gets wind??who knows...ends up fussing pulling on and off and getting more and more distressed and restless.
I am tired and distressed...
Its getting to the stage where somedays I just dont enjoy him at all... which makes me so sad
No one else can get him to sleep...he just ends up in a screaming mess.
I did try the sussh shussh pat pat, in bed method but he ended up so distressed it would then take ages to calm him so I could get him to sleep.
Rocking in the pram is the same
He will sleep in the sling..but only while you walk (I have done 2 hour walks on somedays just to gethim to sleep)
He doesnt like the car either...80% of the time screams.... So its no use taking him for a drive..
I keep repeating that he wont be a baby for long... but its getting redicculous
I dread going anywhere as he wont sleep in the pram with all the distraction. (he was the one awake while all the other bubs at new mums slept ).
My mum organised a surprise BBQ here the other week to "cheer me up" as I dont go anywhere and didnt want to go out. I ended up in his bedroom pacing with him for most of the evening as he was so overstimulated. I wont be able to go to my work christmas dinner... as I will be stressed knowing he is at home screaming. I am dreading Christmas Eve...which is a big family event for us...as I know he will just be beside himself with all the stimulation...
I know there are no magic answers
My parents keep saying formula... the thought of giving up bf makes me feel even more of a failure so theres no way I want to even try that. I am thinking I may try solids at 5mths..and see if that helps
Other mumble about CC. Apart from the fact I couldnt do it anyhow,,,and he's far too young even if I was considering it. I really dont think that would work. As I say, Ive tried the sush/pat. Also on a few occasions when hes been calm putting him in bed and sitting just out of site in the room....he lies awake staring round for 20 minutes....starts to grumble..and even if I intervene then by patting or picking him up..he starts to esculate....and basically it goes back to bounding on the ball or pacing...
Just needed to vent