I have tried hard to include DS with his new little sister and things seem to be going along fine, I get him to tickle her feet while I feed her and he puts her blanket on if it falls off, will lay down next to her and he seems happy to have her around. When people gave us gifts for her I let him unwrap them and have a little bit of a play with them and then we went and found a spot in her room for them.

But my problem is both times my IL's have come over, 1st time they gave our daughter a gift and would not let DS touch it and said 'it's not yours, don't touch it', this made me quite angry, the gift was a 2nd hand teddy.

The second visit, he was touching DD on the foot and they said 'no touching' I said that I allow him to touch her feet while I am feeding her, and apparently I shouldn't.

It is making me cranky that I will snap at them if they say anything again, I can't and wont let DS not touch his sister, I understand that he is still young and can be rough but I am always there with him, and we have a gate so he cant get to her while she is asleep. But I think they need to interact and DS feel like he is special at the same time otherwise I think he will become naughty and start to resent his sister.

Anyone else had this problem?