Wanted: new best friend

**ClutterBug** · 18-10-2008 14:53

I am sick of feeling lonely and friendless.

I am a 30-ish mum of one in the outer South-eastern suburbs. My hubby works long hours, and my closest friend lives 3 hours drive away and we only speak about once a month. I have coped the best i can these last 10 months, but i need things to change!
Previous to my pregnancy my friends were either work collegues or childless old school friends, neither of whom i have anything in common with anymore.

I meet with a couple of other local mums in my area about every fortnight or so. Our mums group started off with about 10 but has quickly dwindled to around 3 or 4 regulars. We get along ok, meet for coffee and discuss our babies. Its all very polite and a little bit stilted. None of us see each other outside our mums group meetings. I don't have any close friends anymore and i really miss that.

So this is what i need:
I need a new "bestie" that i can call and chat to after the baby is in bed. Someone i can "vent" to when i need to and who can likewise chat/b!tch/vent to me. Someone who will drop by unannounced just to hang out together. Someone i can have a good laugh with.

I am a bit wary of posting too many details on an open forum like this, so if you are at all interested, please message me to get the conversation started and see where it takes us.

**LizzardLover** · 18-10-2008 20:13

What a lovely post

I live in Narre Warren and also could really use some friends *sigh* seems weird to be 29 years old with no friends, but alas here I am. I'm getting to know some of the school mums, but it's a long was off calling them "friends" just yet.

I have a 6yo daughter who has been my world and sole focus until now, however i'm now ready to start finding out who *I* am.

**Zada** · 18-10-2008 20:30

Hope you can find someone

I know how u feel tho I need friends lol but no one seems to live here *sigh*

**pinkdresses** · 18-10-2008 20:45

I hardly know anyone in my area.

I moved from Sydney this year and recently had a daughter.

I'ld like to feel like i fit in somewhere.

**karenj24** · 18-10-2008 20:50

I feel the same way. I live in Newcastle - if I lived closer I would love to. I find it hard to get close to people. Mothers group is great but I know what you mean re very polite etc.

**nikki78** · 18-10-2008 23:23

I no how u feel my hubby also works long hours and the only real day we spend together is sunday.
I have a close friend and she has no kids.
I also am a bit wary of people at start til i get to no them and shy
But id like sommone to chat to, or met up with for a coffee.
sometimes u just feel so alone

**LizzardLover** · 19-10-2008 06:35

Originally Posted by nikki78

I also am a bit wary of people at start til i get to no them and shy
But id like sommone to chat to, or met up with for a coffee.
sometimes u just feel so alone

I"m the same way

**jag5000** · 19-10-2008 07:29

hi ladies..

a big "I AGREE" to all the above

i know soclucky and nikki and can vouch for them being awesome! I'd love a 'bestie' too.. esp someone near my area (wantirna south). Someone as clutterbug said I can 'drop in on' or call anytime, someone who doesn't care if I'm in my PJ's at 3pm or that I haven't vaccumed when they come over, someone that when i want to have a party i know that they will turn up. - I am a bit cr@p at keeping in touch, but even if you don't hear from me for a while or vice versa, if you are my friend, you always will be. I moved to Perth about 6 years ago and have been back for 3, but whn I moved I seemed to have lost most of my friends in the time I was there (or as you say the VERY few I have are childless and at a different time in their lives that I am) I always thought i'd make friends when DD went to scholl but if just never happened... gosh, this is turning into a sob story about me huh?

PM me if you'd like clutterbug

(or anyone else)

oh and clucky and nikki (I only mention just you 2 as I've actually met you) I really like you both.. I don't know if I am a bit too full on for you or if you chicks like me too (gosh, this feels like high school again LOL) but if either of you would ever like to catch up or chat on the phone I'd love it!

**pinkdresses** · 19-10-2008 12:12

Originally Posted by jag5000

hi ladies..

a big "I AGREE" to all the above

i know soclucky and nikki and can vouch for them being awesome! I'd love a 'bestie' too.. esp someone near my area (wantirna south). Someone as clutterbug said I can 'drop in on' or call anytime, someone who doesn't care if I'm in my PJ's at 3pm or that I haven't vaccumed when they come over, someone that when i want to have a party i know that they will turn up. - I am a bit cr@p at keeping in touch, but even if you don't hear from me for a while or vice versa, if you are my friend, you always will be. I moved to Perth about 6 years ago and have been back for 3, but whn I moved I seemed to have lost most of my friends in the time I was there (or as you say the VERY few I have are childless and at a different time in their lives that I am) I always thought i'd make friends when DD went to scholl but if just never happened... gosh, this is turning into a sob story about me huh?

PM me if you'd like clutterbug

(or anyone else)

oh and clucky and nikki (I only mention just you 2 as I've actually met you) I really like you both.. I don't know if I am a bit too full on for you or if you chicks like me too (gosh, this feels like high school again LOL) but if either of you would ever like to catch up or chat on the phone I'd love it!

Jo your so cool, not full on at all. I pm'd Nikki also, if you wanna catch up or take our babies to something that would be great.
I just get a bit scared sometimes my little one might not fit in or stuff when she's older because i did'nt take her to classes or playgroups when she was young because i get worried no one likes me.
Hope that makes sense.

**jag5000** · 19-10-2008 12:48

Originally Posted by so clucky

Jo your so cool, not full on at all. I pm'd Nikki also, if you wanna catch up or take our babies to something that would be great.
I just get a bit scared sometimes my little one might not fit in or stuff when she's older because i did'nt take her to classes or playgroups when she was young because i get worried no one likes me.
Hope that makes sense.

I'd love that! Perhaps clutterbug if you are in the area you might like to come too!

I'd love to get to know you better Narelle, I just know there is a real livewire hiding under your shy outer shell

oh, and don't worry about the playgroup thing.. I never did that with DD.. but she turned out fine (well, mostly

) - I also worried that no-one liked me, hence why I didn't even turn up for my own b'day thingy! LOL... don't let my outward confidence put you off.. I'm as shy as you can get under it all. perhaps smaller groups suit you better?