Wanted: new best friend

**ClutterBug** · 18-10-2008 14:53

I am sick of feeling lonely and friendless.

I am a 30-ish mum of one in the outer South-eastern suburbs. My hubby works long hours, and my closest friend lives 3 hours drive away and we only speak about once a month. I have coped the best i can these last 10 months, but i need things to change!
Previous to my pregnancy my friends were either work collegues or childless old school friends, neither of whom i have anything in common with anymore.

I meet with a couple of other local mums in my area about every fortnight or so. Our mums group started off with about 10 but has quickly dwindled to around 3 or 4 regulars. We get along ok, meet for coffee and discuss our babies. Its all very polite and a little bit stilted. None of us see each other outside our mums group meetings. I don't have any close friends anymore and i really miss that.

So this is what i need:
I need a new "bestie" that i can call and chat to after the baby is in bed. Someone i can "vent" to when i need to and who can likewise chat/b!tch/vent to me. Someone who will drop by unannounced just to hang out together. Someone i can have a good laugh with.

I am a bit wary of posting too many details on an open forum like this, so if you are at all interested, please message me to get the conversation started and see where it takes us.

**LizzardLover** · 18-10-2008 20:13

What a lovely post

I live in Narre Warren and also could really use some friends *sigh* seems weird to be 29 years old with no friends, but alas here I am. I'm getting to know some of the school mums, but it's a long was off calling them "friends" just yet.

I have a 6yo daughter who has been my world and sole focus until now, however i'm now ready to start finding out who *I* am.

**Zada** · 18-10-2008 20:30

Hope you can find someone

I know how u feel tho I need friends lol but no one seems to live here *sigh*

**pinkdresses** · 18-10-2008 20:45

I hardly know anyone in my area.

I moved from Sydney this year and recently had a daughter.

I'ld like to feel like i fit in somewhere.

**karenj24** · 18-10-2008 20:50

I feel the same way. I live in Newcastle - if I lived closer I would love to. I find it hard to get close to people. Mothers group is great but I know what you mean re very polite etc.

**nikki78** · 18-10-2008 23:23

I no how u feel my hubby also works long hours and the only real day we spend together is sunday.
I have a close friend and she has no kids.
I also am a bit wary of people at start til i get to no them and shy
But id like sommone to chat to, or met up with for a coffee.
sometimes u just feel so alone

**mum2bubba** · 19-10-2008 20:10

I'd like some friends too. Well I have friends but we're not really close. I go to playgroup but the mums there are all alot older than me and I don't feel like I fit in. I have thought about going to another one where the mums are more my age but I might wait until next year when Hayley starts kinder.

I am shy and I often think people don't like me or they think I'm a snob or something. It sucks.

**micky18** · 19-10-2008 20:43

hi, im michelle and i have a lil boy who 18 months old and ive been wanting to find other babies his age to play with and mums that i can get to know and stuff like wat has already been said....... i live in nunawading not sure where everyone else is.

**mummytoalittlecutie** · 19-10-2008 21:22

Hi everyone. Im Jodie and have a 27 month old ds.
Im the same as alot of you i dont have many freinds as well i know a couple of people but they dont have any kids and we have sorted grown apart since ive had my son.
I would like to get to know some more people as well and so my son can make some freinds and have other kids to play with.
Im very shy when i meet people but once i get to know them i warm up it just takes me a while.
If anyone wants to chat just pm me and i will get back to you.
Jodie.

**Cwazywabbit** · 20-10-2008 06:23

Clutterbug that is the cutest OP I have ever seen in my life .
I remember being lonely when the kids were smaller ..........Hmmm in fact i'm lonely now too be honest, I dont' have anybody to sit and talk to as a friend . I have lots of people to talk to in daily life but none to just sit and vent with or have a glass of wine and sit in the sun watching kids play. I'm a little more east than you (country ) but I'm happy to befriend anybody that wants to befriend me.