He just won't listen

[Chunkydunks]

And for once I'm not talking about DS.

I just had to take DH up to the hospital yet again and quite frankly I'm starting to get embarrassed. Last time was because he was having problems with pain med so I can sort of understand that one. But this time it was because he thought his hernia was ready to pop basically.

Bit of back ground

2002 DH was involved in a serious MVA and all but lost his life. He has 3 crushed vertebrae as a result as well as a lot of scarring from the exploritory surgery. This results in a lot of bowel probelms and the morphine his on blocks him so causes more problems.

At the start of this year he was getting a bit of groin pain and enquired about it at his GP's. It was tiny but we were told to talk to a surgen when we got here. We did so and he said the same thing. Its tiny, theres no risk of anything horrible happening at the moment. Alls good he get sent home and put on the waiting list for the surgery classified as non urgent. He was originally told August but August come and went with no news. So he went back to the surgen who again told him its still tiny. Talk to your GP about why it could be causing so much pain. So he talks to the GP's and they up the pain killers causing more problems.

Well we went back to the hospital today because DH though his hernia was bad enough to get sent straight up and into surgery. The doctor. admittadly though he was chasing pain killers but when he realised that they're not fo the hernia but for the back he admitted his mistake. He then went on to explain that the nervous system can retrain itself to perceive pain as more than it is. The way this has happened in DH's case is like this;

He feels pain when he moved in a certain way so he instinctlively stops moving in that way. The nervous system then goes haywire if he happens to move in that way. In other words DH is feeling far more pain than what the situation would normal be.

Well after getting out of the hospital DH flew off the handle and hasn't stopped since. The doctor knows nothing and its not a real hospital and . This is the 4th doctor that has told him that there is no danger with the hernia therefore even if he had the surgery now it wouldn't help. Why can't he listen to 4 different doctor!!!!

Its frustrating for me because he's using the pain as an excuse not to do anything around the house (the doctor said he should be up and moving) and its embarrasing for me because I have to explain to my family everytime whats going on and because I'm the one taking him up there they think I'm just as crazy as him. I'm so over it. I want to scream at him to get off his **** and do what the doctor says. I'd be the worst person in the world if I did that though.

Sorry for the from me. I really just needed to get it all out. I feel like going to stay at my parents until he gets over himself.

[Lastcenturymum]

Sorry to hear all you have been through and DH too. Chronic pain is an awful thing and must be hard for both of you to live with. I think that and the drugs can really mess with a person.

[Pax]

I live with herniated discs in my back (3 of them) and some in my neck..

your nerves do remember pain, even well after it should not be hurting.

the only relief i have ever had was from interferential therapy. TENS doesnt work but Interferential does.