Dad has a scary voice

[melbryan]

Is it only me or do some mums get walked on ( feels like it) by their toddlers but when dad comes in with his strong voice and says "no" they listen straight away.

I am a teacher and think I have a pretty loud/strong/firm voice but it's like he doesn't hear me when I say 'no' he continues to cry and whinge. I am seriously thinking of buying ear muffs and sunnies to block him out.
He whinges at everyhting he can't do and expects me to fix it for him. I try not to give into him but he is very persistent. Although I am more understanding with him than DF and aks him to tell me what he wants ( he has little speech so gets very frustrated).
I don't think I have given in but he never whinges to his dad when he wants a drink , he does it constantly to me, he is so impatient will he grow out of this?
What to do????

[Lunar]

Complete opposite here!
DD actually listen's more to me than DH! I put on my loud, firm, 'scary voice, and she listens. DH can yell etc all he like, she just ignores him!
I do the 1...2....3 thing and it works a charm everytime! If I get to 3 she goes to her room. Easy. Majority of the time I only get to 2....

[Chickadee]

Yep, it's the same in our house - DH's "big" voice gets instant attention and always has. So I copy it. I aim for low toned instead of loud and it usually works, or at least it works better than me yelling cause when I yell my voice goes up (dare I say it's shrill?) and just gets ignored.

Winging is a phase that they do grow out of as their vocab gets better, and then seem to go through again as toddlers DD is bad when she's tired and can't be reasoned with, but distraction still works occassionally.

[Twoterrorsmum]

Yes Mel, my DS and DD always listen to DH more than me when they are told to stop doing something. Most of the time they listen to me and do as they're told the first time but there are times when they just won't listen to me at all until I feel like I'm yelling at them (which I hate doing)...but when DH speaks 90% of the time they do as they're told straight up. I think the little ones do this to us mums sometimes because they are with us all day while daddy works so they know they can push the boundaries and how "soft" mummy can be. Who knows, that's my theory anyway, I don't know if it makes sense, I hope it does..lol. My DD is going through the whingey phase at the moment...the "terrible two's", I can't wait until she grows out of it. Every now and then DS, who is 4, has his whingey moments as well. When DD and DS do it I stop them and tell them to ask me again in a normal voice, not in the whiney voice and then I'll answer them and/or get them what they want at the time.

[melbryan]

Thanks for your help, hopefully he will grow out of it in the not too distant future as it drives me in sane.
I never wanted to be a mum that thought you wait till your father gets home but now I understand that mentality.
Really I have got him everything he has ever wanted and don't tend to ignore him, he keeps at me and at me whinging, but then in the next minute he wants hugs and kisses. He is such a smoocher.
I have noticed whenever he wants something he always sidles upt to me like I know his whinges mean he wants milk etc.