Strangers taking photo of your child !

**Anna07** · 14-09-2008 13:50

Just a quick vent i suppose and curious to know if this has happened to you and how you dealt with it.
Whilst being outside yesterday with DD a large family group with no children were walking past our house. As usual DD will wave and say hello to everyone. They smiled and said hello, saying what a cute child she is and then all of a sudden two of the men took out their mobile phone to take a photo of her !
I turned her around and nicely asked them not to take any photos. They got a bit upset and asked me why not... simply because its not needed and i don't want them to and we walked away. They didn't understand why they couldn't.

Do they really need a photo of my DD ? For what reason?

Has this happened to anyone.. what are your thoughts on all this.

I guess the way society has become with hearing about all these predators out there has really made me so "over" protective!

**SorenLorensen** · 14-09-2008 14:04

in a situation like that i would have asked for them not too as well.
but i have let strangers take photos of my girls. DD1 is blond haired and has blue eyes, Japanese people LOVE her and are always flocking towards her and i have always let them take photos of her.

there has been a thread similar to this before and someone did point out a very good point that i remember. a lot of people had issues with strangers taking their kids photos yet they happily had their photos posted on the internet and in their avatars...its easy to copy and paste

**She~Ra** · 14-09-2008 15:11

My kids get photos taken of them all the time by people i dont know, i dont say anything, but am curious as to what they do with the photo once it has been developed.

I have never seen a copy of the photos pop up any where either.

I do think it would be nice if they asked first!

**Lastcenturymum** · 14-09-2008 15:15

People should ask first and if someone took their photo, I would question why they wanted their picture and what they intended to use it for (put them under pressure) in fact if it was males taking them, I would ask them to delete it if you didn't catch them in time and be very annoyed about it.

**madaboutsesamestreet** · 14-09-2008 15:16

Just out of interest were the family group tourists? Also I've had Japanese tourists take photos of my two dogs when I was out walking them!

**loveshack** · 14-09-2008 15:17

I've wondered about this well...does your question apply to playgroups also?Moms have taken pics of their kids with DD,and I have as well,but sometimes I still wonder if it's ok....

**~Candy~** · 14-09-2008 15:23

We have an annual pass for Dreamworld and we go often.....the tourists (especially the Japanese) are always stopping and taking photo's of the kids...the kids aren't posing for the pic...just walking along ect.....

**hayleysmummy** · 14-09-2008 15:23

Hmm I would be sus in your circumstance esp it being a male taking pics of your DD on their mobile phone

A few weeks ago I was at the beach with DD and a japanese tourist asked if she could take a pic of DD with her back to the ocean (DD was fully clothed) so I didnt see the harm in it and it would have made a really nice photograph so I didnt mind had it been a male I would have said NO

**Leeny** · 14-09-2008 15:31

Originally Posted by hayleysmummy

A few weeks ago I was at the beach with DD and a japanese tourist asked if she could take a pic of DD with her back to the ocean (DD was fully clothed) so I didnt see the harm in it and it would have made a really nice photograph so I didnt mind had it been a male I would have said NO

Can I ask why

? Just because A woman has taken a photo doesn't make it any more safe then if a man was to take it.. She could just of easily have given the photo to her partner, or been asked to take the photo for a friend.. Also, just because shes a woman, doesn't mean she herself doesn't want the photo for something that you wouldn't want it used for....Know what I mean?

I'm not picking at all, but I just think to say no to a man taking a photo, then yes to a woman is a bit silly. You may as well say no to everyone if you don't want any photos of your children being used or looked at in an unsavory manor.

**hayleysmummy** · 14-09-2008 15:41

Originally Posted by Leeny

Can I ask why

? Just because A woman has taken a photo doesn't make it any more safe then if a man was to take it.. She could just of easily have given the photo to her partner, or been asked to take the photo for a friend.. Also, just because shes a woman, doesn't mean she herself doesn't want the photo for something that you wouldn't want it used for....Know what I mean?

I'm not picking at all, but I just think to say no to a man taking a photo, then yes to a woman is a bit silly. You may as well say no to everyone if you don't want any photos of your children being used or looked at in an unsavory manor.

Honestly I dont know why I would just feel more uncomfortable if it was a man taking a pic of my little girl. I know what you mean though and it does sound silly but its just the way I feel about it.

No offence taken